I'm divorced! - 12/31/03 03:01 AM
I had a hearing set for this friday, but I just found out that filing the final decree at the courthouse today is all that's necessary. I am now divorced! I don't even have to appear before the judge! It's done! I've been separated for two years now, with a downward spiral before it of about four years. Guess I should've picked slowpoke for my user name. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
My ex would stonewall any of my suggestions or ideas. Still, I had hoped for an amicable divorce. I gave up in October. I hired an atty and had papers served. Two months of silence followed. Then out of the blue, he called and was willing to talk about a settlement. We reached a verbal agreement. It's nothing short of a miracle to get cooperation from him.
For two weeks, I've been sitting on a tack, wondering when the sleeping dragon would come out roaring. Yesterday, the papers were ready, and stbx was willing to sign! He signed. The papers were filed. And now I'm divorced without even making a personal appearance at the courthouse. I don't know why after all this time he decided to cooperate, and I'm not going to look a gift horse in the mouth. I don't post much here anymore, but my ex is the one who lived without a refrigerator for 16 months for no sane reason that I can see. There were two of them here at the house, and I offered him his choice of the two several times during those 16 months. He'd stonewall even when I was trying to be nice! You can imagine how surprised I was to get cooperation at this stage. I've always believed in miracles. Guess it was finally my turn to get one of my own. Things could've gotten complicated and drawn out. I feel nothing but relief right now. I feel indifference toward my ex at this point. If I had been a little smarter a lot sooner, maybe there would've been some more things I could have tried. I'm leaving this marriage without any hatred. As a general rule, I don't see divorce as something to celebrate, but dang it all, right now I'm sooo relieved to bring in the new year with my marriage brought to a close. Thought I'd pop in and give my update. Happy new year!
My ex would stonewall any of my suggestions or ideas. Still, I had hoped for an amicable divorce. I gave up in October. I hired an atty and had papers served. Two months of silence followed. Then out of the blue, he called and was willing to talk about a settlement. We reached a verbal agreement. It's nothing short of a miracle to get cooperation from him.
For two weeks, I've been sitting on a tack, wondering when the sleeping dragon would come out roaring. Yesterday, the papers were ready, and stbx was willing to sign! He signed. The papers were filed. And now I'm divorced without even making a personal appearance at the courthouse. I don't know why after all this time he decided to cooperate, and I'm not going to look a gift horse in the mouth. I don't post much here anymore, but my ex is the one who lived without a refrigerator for 16 months for no sane reason that I can see. There were two of them here at the house, and I offered him his choice of the two several times during those 16 months. He'd stonewall even when I was trying to be nice! You can imagine how surprised I was to get cooperation at this stage. I've always believed in miracles. Guess it was finally my turn to get one of my own. Things could've gotten complicated and drawn out. I feel nothing but relief right now. I feel indifference toward my ex at this point. If I had been a little smarter a lot sooner, maybe there would've been some more things I could have tried. I'm leaving this marriage without any hatred. As a general rule, I don't see divorce as something to celebrate, but dang it all, right now I'm sooo relieved to bring in the new year with my marriage brought to a close. Thought I'd pop in and give my update. Happy new year!