How Can These Two Statements Come Out of the Same Mouth? - 09/08/04 06:09 AM
Day One: My son and my exH are having a fight (again) about work. My exH asked son to work on Sunday rather than Saturday--son said sure. Come Sunday morning, exH called to remind him, and son said yep. On Sunday afternoon, son asks exH/dad if he could go to his GF's house to watch this certain movie, and exH says, "Whatever!" Son hears "sure" and goes to GF's and then exH goes into his, "No one ever helps me, everyone abandons me" speech #1.
During the time that exH is feeling all abandoned, he says STATEMENT NUMBER ONE:
"You know what? My son has done to me what I did to you. I guess what goes around really does come around."
Is it just me, or did I just see a head peek through the fog for a VERY brief moment there??
But the part that puzzles me is not that his head popped out of the fog--it does that every now and then from time to time despite his attempts to keep the dry ice in the fog machine ( <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> ) Nope, Statement Number TWO puzzles me.
We were discussing some of the upcoming expenses for the kids (glasses and contacts, a class trip, school photos, etc.) and some of our personal finances slipped in by way of saying, "If you agree to pay XYZ, are you doing well enough to follow through on those agreements? If you're having some difficulties, speak up now so we can plan for it--don't just surprise me."
STATEMENT NUMBER TWO:
"Well I don't just have someone paying for me to live. I have to work for a living."
He pays me MINIMAL child support, and he pays me to buy out my portion of the business I helped him build. It's not like I get thousands of dollars either--I need every dollar to actually care for his children and care for us all!
Some days, I just swear! It's as if he has NO CLUE that I care for HIS CHILDREN. They are HIS too ya know!! It's not like I made 'em and just expected him to pay! HE WAS THERE! He chose to become a father! OY! I suspect he has no idea what it takes to really be a parent to teenage children.
But it just BUGS me how one day he can see through the fog, and the next day the fog is thicker than ever...still. AARRGGHH. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> All I can say is thank God I am not involved in that kind of unstability any more!
Anybody else have an ex like mine?? How do they DO that???????
CJ
During the time that exH is feeling all abandoned, he says STATEMENT NUMBER ONE:
"You know what? My son has done to me what I did to you. I guess what goes around really does come around."
Is it just me, or did I just see a head peek through the fog for a VERY brief moment there??
But the part that puzzles me is not that his head popped out of the fog--it does that every now and then from time to time despite his attempts to keep the dry ice in the fog machine ( <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> ) Nope, Statement Number TWO puzzles me.
We were discussing some of the upcoming expenses for the kids (glasses and contacts, a class trip, school photos, etc.) and some of our personal finances slipped in by way of saying, "If you agree to pay XYZ, are you doing well enough to follow through on those agreements? If you're having some difficulties, speak up now so we can plan for it--don't just surprise me."
STATEMENT NUMBER TWO:
"Well I don't just have someone paying for me to live. I have to work for a living."
He pays me MINIMAL child support, and he pays me to buy out my portion of the business I helped him build. It's not like I get thousands of dollars either--I need every dollar to actually care for his children and care for us all!
Some days, I just swear! It's as if he has NO CLUE that I care for HIS CHILDREN. They are HIS too ya know!! It's not like I made 'em and just expected him to pay! HE WAS THERE! He chose to become a father! OY! I suspect he has no idea what it takes to really be a parent to teenage children.
But it just BUGS me how one day he can see through the fog, and the next day the fog is thicker than ever...still. AARRGGHH. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> All I can say is thank God I am not involved in that kind of unstability any more!
Anybody else have an ex like mine?? How do they DO that???????
CJ