done feeling it - 10/19/04 03:13 PM
I dont know if many people here will remember but a year ago i found out that my WH was once again having an A. I was devasted that this was the 3rd time he had done it and been in false recovery for the last 18 months. I posted here many times and people were wonderful but I was not hopeful that WH would return and I was right he has been with OW eversince and they are purchasing a home together. The Divorce is going through and we will be legally sepaerated any day now.
So why am I posting well I met a wonderful person here and we have been emailing ever since and she convinced me to post here and maybe I could advice others but my story is a little different to many here.
I am so pleased to out of the R I previously had. Yes I was completely broken and wanted nothing more than to save my M. But I didnt have a marriage to save. In Plan B I was able to take a good look at myself adn make the changes necessary to survive not just for myself but for my two children. I was not even half the person I am now with my soon to be exH. I am slimmer, happier, confident, crikey I can even do DIY. My H leaving me was the best thing he could have done. That does not mean that I am sad that things turned out this way for my children if nothing else but having two parents happy and apart is better than having two parents together and miserable. I tried for 10 years to make the M work and I couldnt fight on my own. My children are able to see a much stronger person and someone who is independant. My H drained every once of confidence out of me and I have got it back again. I have come so far this past year and never thought i would be able to survive without my H but here I am. Well I guess that is the end of my story just wanted to share my experience.
So why am I posting well I met a wonderful person here and we have been emailing ever since and she convinced me to post here and maybe I could advice others but my story is a little different to many here.
I am so pleased to out of the R I previously had. Yes I was completely broken and wanted nothing more than to save my M. But I didnt have a marriage to save. In Plan B I was able to take a good look at myself adn make the changes necessary to survive not just for myself but for my two children. I was not even half the person I am now with my soon to be exH. I am slimmer, happier, confident, crikey I can even do DIY. My H leaving me was the best thing he could have done. That does not mean that I am sad that things turned out this way for my children if nothing else but having two parents happy and apart is better than having two parents together and miserable. I tried for 10 years to make the M work and I couldnt fight on my own. My children are able to see a much stronger person and someone who is independant. My H drained every once of confidence out of me and I have got it back again. I have come so far this past year and never thought i would be able to survive without my H but here I am. Well I guess that is the end of my story just wanted to share my experience.