Letter to ExH--I am your EX wife, not your wife! - 02/14/05 01:37 AM
WXH,
I think there has been a misunderstanding of some kind. I am your EX wife, not your current wife or life partner. I am the one, along with your son and daughter, that you threw away so that you could have the freedom to pursue your affairs and your online girls and your sexual emails with OW who "understood you." We are the ones that you deemed "LESS VALUABLE" than getting your ego stroked by waitresses and assistant managers--or blaming us for your issues so that you don't have to look at yourself. If I were your wife, it might be reasonable to expect that I owe it to you to help you...or that the kids owe it to you to make your life easier...but you decided that we were not valuable to you, so we do not owe you a thing.
I am your EX wife! I do not owe it to you to be a "friendly voice" when you have hurt every other person in your life and they are mad at you. I do not owe it to you to save your a$$ when you paint yourself into a corner and you're in trouble. If you schedule 30 hours worth of YOUR work for a 24 hour day, I do not owe you 6 hours of MINE! Shoot...I do not even owe you CIVILITY!! It is no longer your right to demand that I walk on your back. It is no longer your right to require me to rub your feet! It is no longer your right to think I owe it to you to watch your dog and allow her to tip over my trash cans and pee all over in my home.
I can not remember the last time you asked me how *I* was doing, how my work was doing, how my business was doing, or if YOU could help ME. When was the last time you gave up YOUR time to work for me? When was the last time you rubbed MY back or offered to watch MY dog to make my life easier? In fact, when was the last time you made my life easier in any way?? I am expected to "be there" for you with pretty much the GUARANTEE that not only will it never be repaid, it won't even be acknowledged!
I am a loving, funny, easy-going woman. I have loved you for a long, long time--even when you were cheating on me and telling ME that I was crazy and imagining it! Even after everything that I've been through, I still treated you pretty decently and civilly and whenever possible, I do try to help you out and give to you. And STILL, you treat me as if I'm letting you down if I am not able to drop everything and do what you want...when you want it!
I think you have forgotten, I am your EX WIFE. You thought I was less worthy than online flirting with strangers. So maybe you should turn to your email lovers to help you out--you know the ones who are so darn valuable and who love you so much that they were worth throwing away your family for. Get THEM to help you. Be demanding and angry with THEM.
FNCJ
I think there has been a misunderstanding of some kind. I am your EX wife, not your current wife or life partner. I am the one, along with your son and daughter, that you threw away so that you could have the freedom to pursue your affairs and your online girls and your sexual emails with OW who "understood you." We are the ones that you deemed "LESS VALUABLE" than getting your ego stroked by waitresses and assistant managers--or blaming us for your issues so that you don't have to look at yourself. If I were your wife, it might be reasonable to expect that I owe it to you to help you...or that the kids owe it to you to make your life easier...but you decided that we were not valuable to you, so we do not owe you a thing.
I am your EX wife! I do not owe it to you to be a "friendly voice" when you have hurt every other person in your life and they are mad at you. I do not owe it to you to save your a$$ when you paint yourself into a corner and you're in trouble. If you schedule 30 hours worth of YOUR work for a 24 hour day, I do not owe you 6 hours of MINE! Shoot...I do not even owe you CIVILITY!! It is no longer your right to demand that I walk on your back. It is no longer your right to require me to rub your feet! It is no longer your right to think I owe it to you to watch your dog and allow her to tip over my trash cans and pee all over in my home.
I can not remember the last time you asked me how *I* was doing, how my work was doing, how my business was doing, or if YOU could help ME. When was the last time you gave up YOUR time to work for me? When was the last time you rubbed MY back or offered to watch MY dog to make my life easier? In fact, when was the last time you made my life easier in any way?? I am expected to "be there" for you with pretty much the GUARANTEE that not only will it never be repaid, it won't even be acknowledged!
I am a loving, funny, easy-going woman. I have loved you for a long, long time--even when you were cheating on me and telling ME that I was crazy and imagining it! Even after everything that I've been through, I still treated you pretty decently and civilly and whenever possible, I do try to help you out and give to you. And STILL, you treat me as if I'm letting you down if I am not able to drop everything and do what you want...when you want it!
I think you have forgotten, I am your EX WIFE. You thought I was less worthy than online flirting with strangers. So maybe you should turn to your email lovers to help you out--you know the ones who are so darn valuable and who love you so much that they were worth throwing away your family for. Get THEM to help you. Be demanding and angry with THEM.
FNCJ