At a crossroads-More info on Plan A/B please - 03/23/05 03:57 PM
Well, after the revelation yesterday that my H had continued the affair right under my nose after returning from Iraq, a lot has happened. My H is staying in a hotel for a few days until I can get my head on straight to make a decision.
Our MC (bless his heart!!!!) was VERY direct and told my H that he was a sexual addict. MC recommended that my H get help. There's a christian Sex-addict support group in our town, and the MC said when he was ready he should think about going. I'd been trying to get my H to talk to a friend about what he was going through, but I guess he felt that if he did...he'd have to spill the beans.
He called the MC back later yesterday afternoon to get the info on the SG. He also called OW ( in front of me) and told her he wouldn't be able to be in contact with her until after the OC was born.I had told him we would have to separate for a while so that I could figure out what to do, so I'm not sure if that's why he made the calls. Well, the first SG meeting was last night, and he called me from the hotel he's staying in to tell me how wonderful it was, and that it was eye-opening. He's going to continue going, and he has to sign a contract, and be accountable to 6 men for 6 months.
I'm amazed at what has happened in the last 48 hours since I first posted here. I still haven't decided for sure if we can work it out. I'm so scared that he'll do this again. I know you all understand the absolute devistation of A's, but I'm not sure if he can change, and I'm in a lot of pain. He's shown me a lot of remorse, and has taken some big steps. But I need to take care of me for a little while before I can decide if we should stay together.
Several people have recommended that I research plan A and B, but I can't find the info on the web-site...could you direct me?
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JM
Our MC (bless his heart!!!!) was VERY direct and told my H that he was a sexual addict. MC recommended that my H get help. There's a christian Sex-addict support group in our town, and the MC said when he was ready he should think about going. I'd been trying to get my H to talk to a friend about what he was going through, but I guess he felt that if he did...he'd have to spill the beans.
He called the MC back later yesterday afternoon to get the info on the SG. He also called OW ( in front of me) and told her he wouldn't be able to be in contact with her until after the OC was born.I had told him we would have to separate for a while so that I could figure out what to do, so I'm not sure if that's why he made the calls. Well, the first SG meeting was last night, and he called me from the hotel he's staying in to tell me how wonderful it was, and that it was eye-opening. He's going to continue going, and he has to sign a contract, and be accountable to 6 men for 6 months.
I'm amazed at what has happened in the last 48 hours since I first posted here. I still haven't decided for sure if we can work it out. I'm so scared that he'll do this again. I know you all understand the absolute devistation of A's, but I'm not sure if he can change, and I'm in a lot of pain. He's shown me a lot of remorse, and has taken some big steps. But I need to take care of me for a little while before I can decide if we should stay together.
Several people have recommended that I research plan A and B, but I can't find the info on the web-site...could you direct me?
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JM