RECAP AND ADVICE NEEDED - 08/29/10 08:29 PM
Sorry I have not been giving you guysdaily updates to keep my thread current, but time is hard to find. I am very grateful for the people who have offered advice so far. I am posting a recap of events in the hope of getting more responses and advice for my situation as my other thread seems to have gone quiet.
D-DAY: Aug. 17th, 2010
EXPOSED TO: my parents, her parents, my grandparents, my extended family, OMW
PROMISE OF NO CONTACT: AUG 17
PROMISE OF NO CONTACT BROKEN: AUG 19th
PLAN A in effect (very difficult)
OMWs wife has not confronted OM yet. OMW is very cooperative with me in giving me all the information I need abut OM as well as making arrangments to avoid the two of them seeing each other. She has also mentioned to me that OM is flirting with her alot and still having sex with her and has mentioned that she feels OM is actually being deceptive to my WW.
The biggest piece of advice I am hoping to get at the moment is how to confront my WW about no contact. I want to avoid Love Busters and demands and anger. WWe are seeing a MC tomorrow and I want to confront WW about no contact during the counselling session. But what if she flat out denies it?
As in:
ME: "I know you have been talking with this guy everyday for the last two weeks."
WW: "No I havent"
ME: "Well, I know that you have."
WW (DEFENSIVE ANDANGRY): "Nope, I said I woudnt and I havent"
So now what? If any vets or anyone out there can suggest a script where I can confront her without me resorting to calling her a liar and getting angry at her I would really appreciate it. It is very important to me todo this right. Also, at this point I am thinking of asking her to change her cellphone number and remove him as a friend on FaceBook. But hwat if she refuses? Do I jsut accept it and continue with Pan A? It seems like there should be a consequence for her if she is not willing to take these steps to ensure no contact. But I am not ready to go straight to Plan B yet either. Please help with advice! I really hope to hear from you guys.
D-DAY: Aug. 17th, 2010
EXPOSED TO: my parents, her parents, my grandparents, my extended family, OMW
PROMISE OF NO CONTACT: AUG 17
PROMISE OF NO CONTACT BROKEN: AUG 19th
PLAN A in effect (very difficult)
OMWs wife has not confronted OM yet. OMW is very cooperative with me in giving me all the information I need abut OM as well as making arrangments to avoid the two of them seeing each other. She has also mentioned to me that OM is flirting with her alot and still having sex with her and has mentioned that she feels OM is actually being deceptive to my WW.
The biggest piece of advice I am hoping to get at the moment is how to confront my WW about no contact. I want to avoid Love Busters and demands and anger. WWe are seeing a MC tomorrow and I want to confront WW about no contact during the counselling session. But what if she flat out denies it?
As in:
ME: "I know you have been talking with this guy everyday for the last two weeks."
WW: "No I havent"
ME: "Well, I know that you have."
WW (DEFENSIVE ANDANGRY): "Nope, I said I woudnt and I havent"
So now what? If any vets or anyone out there can suggest a script where I can confront her without me resorting to calling her a liar and getting angry at her I would really appreciate it. It is very important to me todo this right. Also, at this point I am thinking of asking her to change her cellphone number and remove him as a friend on FaceBook. But hwat if she refuses? Do I jsut accept it and continue with Pan A? It seems like there should be a consequence for her if she is not willing to take these steps to ensure no contact. But I am not ready to go straight to Plan B yet either. Please help with advice! I really hope to hear from you guys.