She's 42......OM is 69
Makes me want to vomit!
My new Counselor mentions severe "Daddy issues" and that "she not intact".
Any insight from the crew here?
What do you mean by "insight"? In to what? Do you mean an explanation of what the counsellor meant? Have you asked him/her for an explanation of "she is not intact"?
I can understand why you might seek to understand your wife's state of mind. However, it isn't necessary when following Dr Harley's programme to examine her "issues" - not if it involves examining her childhood. If she is in an affair then she will be reluctant to stop it, as are all waywards. She is getting some of her important ENs met by OM.
If she will not end her affair, then for your own protection you should stay in Plan B. If the affair ends you can consider rebuilding the marriage. But if it doesn't end, or she has no wish to return to you, then the marriage will be over.
This is the same for all affairs. They continue because some ENS are being met by OP. Whether or not she has "Daddy issues", she is stuck in her affair and you need to stay in Plan B for now.