Joel1999 - BH Needs Advice - 10/18/11 10:12 PM
Joel, my first bit of advice would be not to get lost on somebody else's thread.
My second bit of advice is to use paragraphs. I've added a few to get you started.
My second bit of advice is to use paragraphs. I've added a few to get you started.
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IN July of 2009 my wife had gastric bypass. She was only 65lbs over her max healthy weight and wasn't a good candidate for this operation. All it did was bring her back down to what she weighed when we first got together. We got married back in March 2002.
Now in May of 2010 my wife went on a business trip and had an affair. I found out real quick and confronted her about it, to which she denied. Well she went out to Las Vegas in July of 2010 and met up with this guy again. This dude is married and is about 20 years older than her. Well by October 2010 she was telling me she wanted to split because she was so confused about everything. Telling me one day she loves me the next day she doesn�t, one day I can stand to see you the next day I can�t.
To make it worst she called me while I was on a trip visiting family in California that she was going to go out to Virginia when I got back for a friend�s birthday which I knew was a lie . The day I flew back home she called me right before my flight saying is wanted to separate. Well I finally left the House in November of 2010 and the first words out of her mouth was we need to see the marriage counselor now, I go why you don�t want to be with me I know what you are doing and the worst part is you are abandoning your kids and for what? I started dating and was enjoying the way these ladies in particular one was treating me and having a good time with her.
By January 2011 my wife was begging me for a second chance. I kept telling her I wasn�t ready you really hurt me bad, but by the middle of February I said yes, but everything is the be cut off and you will answer my questions. Stuff was going good until April when I found out the guy who was still communicating with her, sending her money, and she had a false email address. I confronted her and it stopped until the end of June 2011 and once again there was phone contact, then this past August I helped her take a test so she could go to a convention in December, while I had a gut feeling she was going to contact this guy which she did, and needless to say there was a conversation where to sum it up there was talk of an intimate encounter he was throwing out there.
I was pissed and confronted her a week later about it. First of all she already blew the trust and is trying to rebuild something she screwed up and here she keeps doing it. I am deciding whether or not I should cut my losses and divorce her. It�s not an easy choice, but when I took her back I told her everything is done that�s it you cut everything and it seems that every other month I have to say something which is too much�.
I don�t care what all these researchers say affairs don�t end in happy endings or Hollywood endings where all is ok. I am deeply hurt and am trying to side step stuff, but she wants to act like nothing happened and not face any of the issues she caused. Any thoughts of what I should do?
Now in May of 2010 my wife went on a business trip and had an affair. I found out real quick and confronted her about it, to which she denied. Well she went out to Las Vegas in July of 2010 and met up with this guy again. This dude is married and is about 20 years older than her. Well by October 2010 she was telling me she wanted to split because she was so confused about everything. Telling me one day she loves me the next day she doesn�t, one day I can stand to see you the next day I can�t.
To make it worst she called me while I was on a trip visiting family in California that she was going to go out to Virginia when I got back for a friend�s birthday which I knew was a lie . The day I flew back home she called me right before my flight saying is wanted to separate. Well I finally left the House in November of 2010 and the first words out of her mouth was we need to see the marriage counselor now, I go why you don�t want to be with me I know what you are doing and the worst part is you are abandoning your kids and for what? I started dating and was enjoying the way these ladies in particular one was treating me and having a good time with her.
By January 2011 my wife was begging me for a second chance. I kept telling her I wasn�t ready you really hurt me bad, but by the middle of February I said yes, but everything is the be cut off and you will answer my questions. Stuff was going good until April when I found out the guy who was still communicating with her, sending her money, and she had a false email address. I confronted her and it stopped until the end of June 2011 and once again there was phone contact, then this past August I helped her take a test so she could go to a convention in December, while I had a gut feeling she was going to contact this guy which she did, and needless to say there was a conversation where to sum it up there was talk of an intimate encounter he was throwing out there.
I was pissed and confronted her a week later about it. First of all she already blew the trust and is trying to rebuild something she screwed up and here she keeps doing it. I am deciding whether or not I should cut my losses and divorce her. It�s not an easy choice, but when I took her back I told her everything is done that�s it you cut everything and it seems that every other month I have to say something which is too much�.
I don�t care what all these researchers say affairs don�t end in happy endings or Hollywood endings where all is ok. I am deeply hurt and am trying to side step stuff, but she wants to act like nothing happened and not face any of the issues she caused. Any thoughts of what I should do?