Recently caught cheating spouse can't decide - 08/24/12 01:07 PM
Just this week I confirmed my husband has been having an affair. I was suspicious of it and after checking to see if he was where he was suppose to be going and finding him with another woman at her house. I am numb and still in shock. I had an affair over 6 years ago and caused my husband incredible pain. For two years we stuggled but our marriage was in such a good place. We both agreed our life was in such a good place. He doesn't want to go through all the pain we went through before with my affair. We have three children now and I want to work it out. Not only for the children but for us. I love my husband. He claims he doesn't know if he has it in him. He doesn't know what he wants. His affair was both emotional and physical. He claims to have ended it with her. He still have her number, email, etc. in his phone. I have asked him to delete it out and he said he doesn't know if he should talk to her again. He is sitting on the fence with the decision of whether he wants our marriage or not. I know if he speaks to her again though our marriage will not have a chance. I don't know what to do or how to convience him to try. I can speak from experience that your judgement is clouded when the lover is still in the picture or at least waiting in the wings. Please help me save my marriage!!!!