Can LTAs Die? - 06/08/13 02:21 PM
Hi Everyone,
My wife has been involved in a LTA with a guy (single, no kids) for around two years. D day was November 2012. Upon discovery, my wife was sobbing, seemingly remorseful, begging me not to divorce. Since then this persona has not returned and she has been unable or unwilling to to give up this relationship, though it seems to have cooled down considerably.
She has never left me for him and, strange though it may sound, she does love me and I love her. She has many deep problems. Not excusing her, just saying.
We are on our second separation. I have done Plan A and a half-assed Plan B. it is hard because we coparent two young kids.
Recently I started moving toward divorce, but cannot bring myself to go through with it. Again, I do love her and believe she loves me. My plan is to wait it out another six months and then resolve to divorce if she still cannot end it with him forever.
We had a wonderful marriage prior to the affair, and built a rich life with our family. I do not want to give this up. But I know this cannot continue.
My question: has anyone reconciled after a LTA? If so, how did the affair end?
Thanks so much for sharing your experiences.
My wife has been involved in a LTA with a guy (single, no kids) for around two years. D day was November 2012. Upon discovery, my wife was sobbing, seemingly remorseful, begging me not to divorce. Since then this persona has not returned and she has been unable or unwilling to to give up this relationship, though it seems to have cooled down considerably.
She has never left me for him and, strange though it may sound, she does love me and I love her. She has many deep problems. Not excusing her, just saying.
We are on our second separation. I have done Plan A and a half-assed Plan B. it is hard because we coparent two young kids.
Recently I started moving toward divorce, but cannot bring myself to go through with it. Again, I do love her and believe she loves me. My plan is to wait it out another six months and then resolve to divorce if she still cannot end it with him forever.
We had a wonderful marriage prior to the affair, and built a rich life with our family. I do not want to give this up. But I know this cannot continue.
My question: has anyone reconciled after a LTA? If so, how did the affair end?
Thanks so much for sharing your experiences.