Natural to still have anger a few years later? - 10/01/13 01:11 PM
Blah blah blah back story not really that important.
Short run down:
- WW had ONS with OM while high on cocaine at Christmas Party 16th Dec, 2011.
- Has maintained NC with OM.
- Was caught morning of June 7th, 2013 high on cocaine again with her idiot best friend (host of Christmas Party) while I returned home early from a pleasure trip.
- Immediately confronted WW with a quick trip to her Mother's house and threat of immediate eviction from household by myself (MiL previously downplayed WW's drug problem and cheating during initial exposure, helicopter parenting and such).
- MiL now inline and onside. MiL can no longer downplay severity of WW's behavior (Fortunately my MiL isn't a total dunce).
- WW still periodically smokes marijuana which is a huge trigger for me given all the history in my life of loved ones abusing drugs/alcohol.
- Still finding it hard to trust WW, mostly on account of drug use.
- Monitoring program still in full swing (keylogger etc...)
- Triggers send me into instant anger and loathing towards WW and her ONS, the fog and all of the rest of the garbage associated with ONS.
- Still managing to hold myself together (I'm stronger than I ever thought I could be).
- Haven't yelled or any untoward behavior directed at WW.
Still trying to be the best Husband I can be.
As a personal question for myself: Is it normal to still react so negatively to triggers this far along?
WW has been (aside from her drug abuse) pretty good at being a good Wife since ONS. I understand her drug abuse is likely a symptom of a larger personal issue of hers.
Lately she has been more affectionate which is actually a little off putting. At first I thought she was up to no good as I have been burned a time or two ya know, but there is no indication that she is wayward again. Pretty sure I'd know if she had anything underground as I have become amazingly proficient at surveillance.
Starting to think it might be drugs, again. Anyone have experience with their WW/WH and drugs? Haven't really been monitoring for drugs.
You know that gut feeling? The one that likely landed us (you - the reader, and myself) here. Yeah, I have that feeling but different.
Short run down:
- WW had ONS with OM while high on cocaine at Christmas Party 16th Dec, 2011.
- Has maintained NC with OM.
- Was caught morning of June 7th, 2013 high on cocaine again with her idiot best friend (host of Christmas Party) while I returned home early from a pleasure trip.
- Immediately confronted WW with a quick trip to her Mother's house and threat of immediate eviction from household by myself (MiL previously downplayed WW's drug problem and cheating during initial exposure, helicopter parenting and such).
- MiL now inline and onside. MiL can no longer downplay severity of WW's behavior (Fortunately my MiL isn't a total dunce).
- WW still periodically smokes marijuana which is a huge trigger for me given all the history in my life of loved ones abusing drugs/alcohol.
- Still finding it hard to trust WW, mostly on account of drug use.
- Monitoring program still in full swing (keylogger etc...)
- Triggers send me into instant anger and loathing towards WW and her ONS, the fog and all of the rest of the garbage associated with ONS.
- Still managing to hold myself together (I'm stronger than I ever thought I could be).
- Haven't yelled or any untoward behavior directed at WW.
Still trying to be the best Husband I can be.
As a personal question for myself: Is it normal to still react so negatively to triggers this far along?
WW has been (aside from her drug abuse) pretty good at being a good Wife since ONS. I understand her drug abuse is likely a symptom of a larger personal issue of hers.
Lately she has been more affectionate which is actually a little off putting. At first I thought she was up to no good as I have been burned a time or two ya know, but there is no indication that she is wayward again. Pretty sure I'd know if she had anything underground as I have become amazingly proficient at surveillance.
Starting to think it might be drugs, again. Anyone have experience with their WW/WH and drugs? Haven't really been monitoring for drugs.
You know that gut feeling? The one that likely landed us (you - the reader, and myself) here. Yeah, I have that feeling but different.