Details, details - 05/22/18 02:02 AM
We've been following the MB program, via guidance on these forums, for over a year now. We've successfully navigated his porn addiction (protested, stopped, and for insurance blocked using DNS) and his brewing friendship with another woman (stopped the first time I showed up at a meeting of the group they both belonged to).
It never ends, does it? I guess he just is not quite onboard. This has to change, of course. My first task will be to convince him that, yes, he really does need my enthusiastic agreement to continue his motorcycling hobby, which takes him away during time we should be spending together, and exposes him to people he should not be spending time with. And second, because ... well, I'm not quite sure what. Let me explain.
One of our best couples activities is that we do yoga together. After class the other day, he told me that he was nearly certain his ex-wife also attended the session we were at, a session which we have been attending regularly for well over a year.. He says they did not speak, and he is not sure she noticed him. I certainly didn't even notice her or would have insisted we leave. This woman has created conflicts for us in the past, and I want to be sure she is completely out of our lives, even at random gatherings such as yoga classes. I don't want him in the same room with her, ever again.
Do I monitor the attendee list (I have some administrative authority at this particular studio) to confirm it's really her, insist we find another (much, much less convenient) class to attend, or ... ? Actually he has suggested that we attend other times--he gave several other reasons why we might want to change, not mentioning her--but what if she continues to show up when we're there? Suggestions welcome.
It never ends, does it? I guess he just is not quite onboard. This has to change, of course. My first task will be to convince him that, yes, he really does need my enthusiastic agreement to continue his motorcycling hobby, which takes him away during time we should be spending together, and exposes him to people he should not be spending time with. And second, because ... well, I'm not quite sure what. Let me explain.
One of our best couples activities is that we do yoga together. After class the other day, he told me that he was nearly certain his ex-wife also attended the session we were at, a session which we have been attending regularly for well over a year.. He says they did not speak, and he is not sure she noticed him. I certainly didn't even notice her or would have insisted we leave. This woman has created conflicts for us in the past, and I want to be sure she is completely out of our lives, even at random gatherings such as yoga classes. I don't want him in the same room with her, ever again.
Do I monitor the attendee list (I have some administrative authority at this particular studio) to confirm it's really her, insist we find another (much, much less convenient) class to attend, or ... ? Actually he has suggested that we attend other times--he gave several other reasons why we might want to change, not mentioning her--but what if she continues to show up when we're there? Suggestions welcome.