I feel so mixed up inside!! - Marriage Builders® Forums

Hi everyone-
Just had to write in and say I have had NC with H since I called the W and that also hurts that he hasnt tried calling to explain or apologize or anything(not that it would help!). I know most of you said he wouldnt, but it is still tough for me to grasp (actually so are all the lies I found out). Night time is the WORST. I have to take pills to sleep as I havent slept well all week. Lying in the dark with the silence (and the truth)eats me ALIVE and is SO HARD..it is pretty unbearable. Yesterday I started getting angry about it and wanted to call him and blast him so bad, but I got through it some how.
T <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> alk to me..........
MissLilly

Are you the OW?

Lilly,

Weekends on MB are really slow... It's just the way this forum works.

I know it's hard but you need to find ways of distracting yourself. Many BW and BH also want to go blast the OPs in their lives, but the majority of them find things to do to distract themselves for those thoughts or acting on it and you will need to too.

BS also want to blast the WS too <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> -- but many of us here work very hard at doing a good plan A -- which means we work very hard not to blast (we don't always succeed) but we work to do that.

I understand .. keep posting, find stuff to do .. he's really not worth the engery you are spending on him.

way2

Hi Way2-
Thanks again...youve helped ALOT!!
What is WS and BS and all the other ones stand for?? Sorry a little clueless!
Guess what Im going to do? I joined a dance class to learn Latin, Swing, etc etc! Heading out soon....cant wait! Another distraction from the original distraction! ha! ha!
Hope you had a good weekend.
Misslilly

Takola****
Yes it is "I" the "FORMER" OW!!!!!

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

A = Affair
EMR = Extra Marital Relationship
EA = Emotional Affair
PA = Physical Affair
SF = Sexual Fulfillment
DV = can mean either divorce or domestic violence
BS = Betrayed Spouse
BW = Betrayed Wife
BH = Betrayed Husband
WS = Wayward Spouse
WW = Wayward Wife
WH = Wayward Husband
FWS = Former Wayward Spouse
FWW = Former Wayward Wife
FWH = Former Wayward Husband
OP = Other Person the Wayward Spouse had the A with
OW = Other Woman
OM = Other Man
OC = Other child
MM = Married Man
MW = Married Woman
plan A = something BSs do
plan B= something BSs do
POJA = policy of joint argeement

has that helped? lol

How did your dance classes go?

way2

Hi Way2-
Dance was great-thanks for asking!
Thank you also for posting all the terms for me! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> The only one I still dont get is "wayward spouse" or "wayward" whatever!???
Misslilly

"wayward" is the spouse who had the affair

from Merriam-Webster On-line: <blockquote>quote:<hr /> Main Entry: way·ward
Pronunciation: 'wA-w&rd
Function: adjective
Etymology: Middle English, short for awayward turned away, from away, adverb + -ward
Date: 14th century
1 : following one's own capricious, wanton, or depraved inclinations : UNGOVERNABLE
2 : following no clear principle or law : UNPREDICTABLE
3 : opposite to what is desired or expected : UNTOWARD <wayward fate>
synonym see CONTRARY
- way·ward·ly adverb
- way·ward·ness noun <hr /></blockquote>