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I feel so mixed up inside!! #80130 10/31/03 08:38 AM
Joined: Oct 2003 Posts: 34 M MissLilly67 OP Member
OP MissLilly67 Member M Joined: Oct 2003 Posts: 34	Hi everyone- Just had to write in and say I have had NC with H since I called the W and that also hurts that he hasnt tried calling to explain or apologize or anything(not that it would help!). I know most of you said he wouldnt, but it is still tough for me to grasp (actually so are all the lies I found out). Night time is the WORST. I have to take pills to sleep as I havent slept well all week. Lying in the dark with the silence (and the truth)eats me ALIVE and is SO HARD..it is pretty unbearable. Yesterday I started getting angry about it and wanted to call him and blast him so bad, but I got through it some how. T <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> alk to me.......... MissLilly

Re: I feel so mixed up inside!! #80131 10/31/03 06:28 PM
Joined: Mar 2002 Posts: 5,651 * Takola Member
Takola Member * Joined: Mar 2002 Posts: 5,651	Are you the OW?

Re: I feel so mixed up inside!! #80132 11/02/03 12:08 PM
Joined: Jan 2003 Posts: 1,713 W way2 Member
way2 Member W Joined: Jan 2003 Posts: 1,713	Lilly, Weekends on MB are really slow... It's just the way this forum works. I know it's hard but you need to find ways of distracting yourself. Many BW and BH also want to go blast the OPs in their lives, but the majority of them find things to do to distract themselves for those thoughts or acting on it and you will need to too. BS also want to blast the WS too <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> -- but many of us here work very hard at doing a good plan A -- which means we work very hard not to blast (we don't always succeed) but we work to do that. I understand .. keep posting, find stuff to do .. he's really not worth the engery you are spending on him. way2

Re: I feel so mixed up inside!! #80133 11/02/03 02:49 PM
Joined: Oct 2003 Posts: 34 M MissLilly67 OP Member
OP MissLilly67 Member M Joined: Oct 2003 Posts: 34	Hi Way2- Thanks again...youve helped ALOT!! What is WS and BS and all the other ones stand for?? Sorry a little clueless! Guess what Im going to do? I joined a dance class to learn Latin, Swing, etc etc! Heading out soon....cant wait! Another distraction from the original distraction! ha! ha! Hope you had a good weekend. Misslilly

Re: I feel so mixed up inside!! #80134 11/02/03 02:52 PM
Joined: Oct 2003 Posts: 34 M MissLilly67 OP Member
OP MissLilly67 Member M Joined: Oct 2003 Posts: 34	Takola**** Yes it is "I" the "FORMER" OW!!!!!

Re: I feel so mixed up inside!! #80135 11/03/03 12:34 AM
Joined: Jan 2003 Posts: 1,713 W way2 Member
way2 Member W Joined: Jan 2003 Posts: 1,713	<img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> A = Affair EMR = Extra Marital Relationship EA = Emotional Affair PA = Physical Affair SF = Sexual Fulfillment DV = can mean either divorce or domestic violence BS = Betrayed Spouse BW = Betrayed Wife BH = Betrayed Husband WS = Wayward Spouse WW = Wayward Wife WH = Wayward Husband FWS = Former Wayward Spouse FWW = Former Wayward Wife FWH = Former Wayward Husband OP = Other Person the Wayward Spouse had the A with OW = Other Woman OM = Other Man OC = Other child MM = Married Man MW = Married Woman plan A = something BSs do plan B= something BSs do POJA = policy of joint argeement has that helped? lol How did your dance classes go? way2

Re: I feel so mixed up inside!! #80136 11/03/03 09:27 AM
Joined: Oct 2003 Posts: 34 M MissLilly67 OP Member
OP MissLilly67 Member M Joined: Oct 2003 Posts: 34	Hi Way2- Dance was great-thanks for asking! Thank you also for posting all the terms for me! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> The only one I still dont get is "wayward spouse" or "wayward" whatever!??? Misslilly

Re: I feel so mixed up inside!! #80137 11/03/03 10:45 AM
Joined: Jan 2003 Posts: 1,713 W way2 Member
way2 Member W Joined: Jan 2003 Posts: 1,713	"wayward" is the spouse who had the affair from Merriam-Webster On-line: </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Main Entry: way·ward Pronunciation: 'wA-w&rd Function: adjective Etymology: Middle English, short for awayward turned away, from away, adverb + -ward Date: 14th century 1 : following one's own capricious, wanton, or depraved inclinations : UNGOVERNABLE 2 : following no clear principle or law : UNPREDICTABLE 3 : opposite to what is desired or expected : UNTOWARD <wayward fate> synonym see CONTRARY - way·ward·ly adverb - way·ward·ness noun </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">

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