My husband and I are both survivors of affairs. I had one-he retaliated-they are over and we are back together-mostly happy. Our "others" were both people we work with. I no longer work with mine, he still works side by side with his. I have a "chip on my shoulder" regarding his work. During the time we were having trouble...they were all taking him out...partying...telling him he could do better..etc. (they all are a decade younger than us). Anyway, I find it hard to send him to work, but do and try to be supportive (ask him how his day went...get involved etc.) The problem I am having is now women he works with (that were not aware of this situation)-are contacting him by instant messenger at least daily. We'll be on the computer together...and one of his "buddies" chime in...they will talk about work and always his other is mentioned in passing or they will forward e-mails that were also forwarded to her. My side is that I feel my living room is "our space" and I am tired or reminders every day of her nor do I feel it is appropriate that his female friends (who do not even know me) contact him daily. It, too me, would be like calling him every night just to chat. He thinks I am being unjustly jealous and insecure. He has given me no reason to feel that way since we have reunited. Am I wrong-am I being overly jealous and am I making everything worse by complaining about it? Thanks for your insight.

You are correct in feeling that you space at home is your space and not to be infultrated by "outside sources." Have you tried turning the computer off or at least signing on in invisible mode.