I'm the other woman in Waycross GA - 03/09/02 06:57 AM
I am the other woman. I have never believed in love at first sight. Then I met him. I am young and was not sexually experienced hardly at all. We were together for 2 years. We both tried to break it off. Now we have completely. The first 6 months or so he said he'd never leave her. Then I started realizing that if he didn't I was only going to hurt tremendously. I decided to move to AZ or somewhere far away...so that at least I wouldn't see him. I felt I didn't have the will power to say no. He talked me into moving to Jacksonville FL (about an hour away) instead. I then found emails of him writing to an old girlfriend talking about having sex with her. He even confessed to seeing the old girlfriend...and said he didn't have sex with her...they only emailed about it. I freaked and started threatening to tell his wife. We haven't talked in about 3 or 4 days. I miss him and I love him. If they can work it out that will be great. But I can't pretend that I don't love him. I want it to be over and so does he. He is addicted to affairs. He has been married about 4 years and dated her for about 8 or 9 years. He cheated on her during the dating and even on the night before their wedding. He said he knew that after the wedding he wouldn't anymore and so he drank from the cantene one last time. He has only said wonderful things about her....she and I would be wonderful friends had the situation been different. He has made comments about her weight...and how he has no sexual desire for her and hasn't for years...even before he met me. He said he knew that she would never and could never cheat on him....and that gave him security. I have gotten over my anger with him (it has taken months). I've prayed long and hard for that and it is a MIRACLE!!! I feel the need to tell her and beg her forgiveness and warn her...she deserves better. I feel she may be insecure and think she can't find anyone else who can make her feel the way he can make a woman feel. He has threatened to destroy me or even kill me if I tell her...of course I have no proof. I just don't know what to do. He says he still is going to leave her and that I screwed up our relationship....that I couldn't be patient enough. Any help or stories out there similar to mine? I sound like a babbling idiot....but I'm a young, university educated woman who has made some terrible choices who needs some good advice.