I'm so stressed - 05/13/07 08:55 PM
I've been with my SO for 18 months. He's fabulous! We are so on the "same page" with regards to religion, finances, and children (I think/thought).
One EN he hasn't met for me are those 3 darn words. Otherwise, I constantly hear postives, and his actions speak VOLUMES to me. I am so smitten, but I'm stubborn on this one...I want him to say it first. Is it causing me to over-analyze? Without a doubt. Has it been a deal breaker? No.
He recently bought a new boat that seats 5. I have 2 kids, he has one. They are all about the same age (teenagers), and the same sex. He had told my kids 2 weeks ago that he would take them on the boat (for the first time) today. They were so excited. They so wanted to go 2 weeks ago, but we took his DD and 2 friends. He took DD and her friend out all day yesterday.
Fast forward to today. He calls to say that DD wants to take her friend (from yesterday), and she won't go unless friend comes. This clearly puts us over the person limit. I volunteer to stay home as my kids were so excited. When they heard I wasn't going, my oldest offered to stay home.
SO said all the right words, and acknowledged that I "wasn't a very good actress", but I loaded everyone up with the food I had shopped for this morning with a smile. And OFF THEY WENT.
I am so upset right now. It's Mother's Day and here I am alone. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> Yes, the beers have so taken the edge off, but I'm hurt---big time. My kids knew it and he knew it.
Did I offer to not go? Yes. Did I think he'd take me up on the offer? NEVER. I think he should've said "No" to DD. But...he didn't. Am I the only one whose ever said "no" to a child??? I wasn't "bumped" due to DD, I was "bumped" because of DD's friend.
So, I need opinions/advise---I'm getting ready to put on my big girl panties while I grab another beer. Oh, and don't forget the ily thing....am I with a tortoise? (from a thread on another site).
My eyes are so swollen I've decided I won't/can't be here when the "crew" returns.
UpandRunning (and having a pity party)
One EN he hasn't met for me are those 3 darn words. Otherwise, I constantly hear postives, and his actions speak VOLUMES to me. I am so smitten, but I'm stubborn on this one...I want him to say it first. Is it causing me to over-analyze? Without a doubt. Has it been a deal breaker? No.
He recently bought a new boat that seats 5. I have 2 kids, he has one. They are all about the same age (teenagers), and the same sex. He had told my kids 2 weeks ago that he would take them on the boat (for the first time) today. They were so excited. They so wanted to go 2 weeks ago, but we took his DD and 2 friends. He took DD and her friend out all day yesterday.
Fast forward to today. He calls to say that DD wants to take her friend (from yesterday), and she won't go unless friend comes. This clearly puts us over the person limit. I volunteer to stay home as my kids were so excited. When they heard I wasn't going, my oldest offered to stay home.
SO said all the right words, and acknowledged that I "wasn't a very good actress", but I loaded everyone up with the food I had shopped for this morning with a smile. And OFF THEY WENT.
I am so upset right now. It's Mother's Day and here I am alone. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> Yes, the beers have so taken the edge off, but I'm hurt---big time. My kids knew it and he knew it.
Did I offer to not go? Yes. Did I think he'd take me up on the offer? NEVER. I think he should've said "No" to DD. But...he didn't. Am I the only one whose ever said "no" to a child??? I wasn't "bumped" due to DD, I was "bumped" because of DD's friend.
So, I need opinions/advise---I'm getting ready to put on my big girl panties while I grab another beer. Oh, and don't forget the ily thing....am I with a tortoise? (from a thread on another site).
My eyes are so swollen I've decided I won't/can't be here when the "crew" returns.
UpandRunning (and having a pity party)