Affair partners but they are REALLY good people - 01/02/08 04:55 AM
Had this happen yesterday with me and my girlfriend on New Years Eve. We had made plans to spend a quiet evening together but a last minute call from her best friend with a dinner invitation upset the applecart.
Her best friend( and I have known hermyself for 10 years) is a nurse that broke up a local doctor's marriage. Her relationship continues with her affair partner and it has put my girlfriend in somewat of a tough spot. You see when I heard of the affair I told my GF that under no circustance would I attend any function that both of the affairee's attended. I have spoken to the nurse on several occasions and while she was hostile to my suggestions that she needed to make amends with her affair partner's wife and to break off her sick relationsip, we can communicate in a respectful manner. As I told my GF, hate the sin and not the sinner.
Well anyway, my GF broke the news of the invitation and the first words out of my mouth were to make sure he was not going to be there and in a somewhat painful manner she stated that she would not do that to me. I apologized and insisted that my suspicions were that my GF might be putting herself in an embarassing position if we attended and I had to walk out of the party. I must have hit a nerve because my GF walked into the room and told me that she had called her nurse friend back and yes, he was going to be there.
As we were leaving for my place she had me put several pies in the trunk and said she had an obligation to drop them off at the nurse's house. About 2:30pm she grabbed my car and said she was going to be right back, she was on her way to drop off the pies.
Well hours went by and as I got more worried/angry about her whereabouts and after several unanswered text messages asking where she was, she finally called at 9:30pm. She said she was just leaving and was bringing a plate of food over for me. By this time I was furious having cooked and eaten my portion of our planned New Years Eve dinner. Our evening ended on a very quiet note with only hellos exchanged and I went off to bed.
I have avoided her phone calls all day butr I am torn by what happened. I don't know if I am being childish in reacting to basically being stood up or that it is obvious that she does not share my position with her her best friend's marriage breaking relationship. Am I blowing this way out ofcproportion? In the past the nurse asked me how I would feel about her relationship if she was now married to the doctor for 5 years and I answered that I would think about it if that rarity did occur.
Any input would be helpful.
Her best friend( and I have known hermyself for 10 years) is a nurse that broke up a local doctor's marriage. Her relationship continues with her affair partner and it has put my girlfriend in somewat of a tough spot. You see when I heard of the affair I told my GF that under no circustance would I attend any function that both of the affairee's attended. I have spoken to the nurse on several occasions and while she was hostile to my suggestions that she needed to make amends with her affair partner's wife and to break off her sick relationsip, we can communicate in a respectful manner. As I told my GF, hate the sin and not the sinner.
Well anyway, my GF broke the news of the invitation and the first words out of my mouth were to make sure he was not going to be there and in a somewhat painful manner she stated that she would not do that to me. I apologized and insisted that my suspicions were that my GF might be putting herself in an embarassing position if we attended and I had to walk out of the party. I must have hit a nerve because my GF walked into the room and told me that she had called her nurse friend back and yes, he was going to be there.
As we were leaving for my place she had me put several pies in the trunk and said she had an obligation to drop them off at the nurse's house. About 2:30pm she grabbed my car and said she was going to be right back, she was on her way to drop off the pies.
Well hours went by and as I got more worried/angry about her whereabouts and after several unanswered text messages asking where she was, she finally called at 9:30pm. She said she was just leaving and was bringing a plate of food over for me. By this time I was furious having cooked and eaten my portion of our planned New Years Eve dinner. Our evening ended on a very quiet note with only hellos exchanged and I went off to bed.
I have avoided her phone calls all day butr I am torn by what happened. I don't know if I am being childish in reacting to basically being stood up or that it is obvious that she does not share my position with her her best friend's marriage breaking relationship. Am I blowing this way out ofcproportion? In the past the nurse asked me how I would feel about her relationship if she was now married to the doctor for 5 years and I answered that I would think about it if that rarity did occur.
Any input would be helpful.