The Road Ahead - 02/25/10 06:34 PM
I don't know if any of you remember me (Deja Vu) as I haven't posted or even visited this site for awhile. I'm back for a visit, or maybe for awhile... who knows?
My divorce was final in 2006, though I moved out in 2004 so it really feels like 5+ years now. I have (had?) no interest in another relationship, but recent events have caused me to revisit myself - who I am, what I want, where I'm going.
I am currently laid up with a badly broken ankle. Which I broke in my own basement when I slipped on water I didn't see. Anyway, sitting here has given me a lot of time to think - time to wonder if I really want to spend my life alone, which is where I seem to be headed.
I think the answer is mixed. I like my independence, I have lots of irons in the fire that I've waited YEARS to be able to pursue. After two marriages, and alot of lost time, I feel like I want to make up for it now. And I DO NOT mean by dating lots of people. I mean pursuing interests I couldn't fit into my previous life.
But, I am also not a spring chicken any longer, and as I think ahead to retirement some day, I can't imagine spending it alone. My single friends who have been alone longer than I have seem to make it work, but maybe they've just had more time to adjust to it. Or maybe they are more introverted than I am.
I don't see a good way to have both freedom and companionship. Has anyone else struggled with this issue, and if so, how did you resolve it?
My divorce was final in 2006, though I moved out in 2004 so it really feels like 5+ years now. I have (had?) no interest in another relationship, but recent events have caused me to revisit myself - who I am, what I want, where I'm going.
I am currently laid up with a badly broken ankle. Which I broke in my own basement when I slipped on water I didn't see. Anyway, sitting here has given me a lot of time to think - time to wonder if I really want to spend my life alone, which is where I seem to be headed.
I think the answer is mixed. I like my independence, I have lots of irons in the fire that I've waited YEARS to be able to pursue. After two marriages, and alot of lost time, I feel like I want to make up for it now. And I DO NOT mean by dating lots of people. I mean pursuing interests I couldn't fit into my previous life.
But, I am also not a spring chicken any longer, and as I think ahead to retirement some day, I can't imagine spending it alone. My single friends who have been alone longer than I have seem to make it work, but maybe they've just had more time to adjust to it. Or maybe they are more introverted than I am.
I don't see a good way to have both freedom and companionship. Has anyone else struggled with this issue, and if so, how did you resolve it?