is he going to do this again? - 10/18/12 06:23 PM
Please give me your opinion.
I have known my boyfriend for about 1 year, we both work for the same retail company, different stores, but all in the same city. We were friends for 7 months before he asked me out on a date. He had just got out of a bad relationship withwhom he had a child. The ex-gf had started a relationship with someone else and was an overall very bad person to my ex. She was abusive mentaly and phsyically and he would often talk to me about this.
After they broke up he immediatly wanted to start something with me. I recommended space, he said he didn't need it as he was done with her long ago. He moved from their apartment, bought a house. The drama with the ex continued, she and him would fight a lot, once she even lied and told the police he hit her, so he was charged with DV. He had to get a lawyer, and pay big bucks. She went after him for high amounts of child support. It was a nightmare for me too, but I stuck by his side.
Why did I stay around? This guy was so good to me. Well liked my my co-workers, he moved stores so that we could date, which was a $1,000/month pay loss for him. My family loved him. He was thoughtfull and would do anything for me. We were so alike and always had a great time together. He supported all my plans and dreams for my life, like no other guy I have dated has.
And then, 5 days ago he comes over and asks for a break. He said he has been stressed out like crazy over everything. His financial situation has taken a turn for the worse, school is overwhelming him and he feels like he isn't being the best dad he could be. I said okay. We were both crying and then he left.
He leaves, picks up his kid a goes to take her to the mother, and they begin to talk. He says he has been having these feelings like he wants a family and things lead to another and they hook-up, not sex, but might as well have been. He told her he missed her and that he still loved her. After it was over he freaked out...and knew he had messed up.
He had to go out of town for work and when he got back that next day he made her meet him at a gas station and said he was wrong and that he shouldn't of done that! He realized that he wanted to be with me and not her and she didn't take that well at all. She e-mailed me all that had happened.
He then later shows up at my house with flowers and says how wrong he was and that he made the biggest mistake of his life. He said he does want a family really bad, and knows that it won't be awhile with me since we have only dated 5 months so he tried to rush into one with her, but that was wrong and he would rather have it with me. He said he loves me more than anything and hopes I can forgive him. He said he will back off and give me space to think and that he will wait.
What do I do? Forgive him? He is still going to have to see that ex a lot. I love him, so I don't want to throw it all away, but he hurt me bad!
I am 25 and he is 24
I have known my boyfriend for about 1 year, we both work for the same retail company, different stores, but all in the same city. We were friends for 7 months before he asked me out on a date. He had just got out of a bad relationship withwhom he had a child. The ex-gf had started a relationship with someone else and was an overall very bad person to my ex. She was abusive mentaly and phsyically and he would often talk to me about this.
After they broke up he immediatly wanted to start something with me. I recommended space, he said he didn't need it as he was done with her long ago. He moved from their apartment, bought a house. The drama with the ex continued, she and him would fight a lot, once she even lied and told the police he hit her, so he was charged with DV. He had to get a lawyer, and pay big bucks. She went after him for high amounts of child support. It was a nightmare for me too, but I stuck by his side.
Why did I stay around? This guy was so good to me. Well liked my my co-workers, he moved stores so that we could date, which was a $1,000/month pay loss for him. My family loved him. He was thoughtfull and would do anything for me. We were so alike and always had a great time together. He supported all my plans and dreams for my life, like no other guy I have dated has.
And then, 5 days ago he comes over and asks for a break. He said he has been stressed out like crazy over everything. His financial situation has taken a turn for the worse, school is overwhelming him and he feels like he isn't being the best dad he could be. I said okay. We were both crying and then he left.
He leaves, picks up his kid a goes to take her to the mother, and they begin to talk. He says he has been having these feelings like he wants a family and things lead to another and they hook-up, not sex, but might as well have been. He told her he missed her and that he still loved her. After it was over he freaked out...and knew he had messed up.
He had to go out of town for work and when he got back that next day he made her meet him at a gas station and said he was wrong and that he shouldn't of done that! He realized that he wanted to be with me and not her and she didn't take that well at all. She e-mailed me all that had happened.
He then later shows up at my house with flowers and says how wrong he was and that he made the biggest mistake of his life. He said he does want a family really bad, and knows that it won't be awhile with me since we have only dated 5 months so he tried to rush into one with her, but that was wrong and he would rather have it with me. He said he loves me more than anything and hopes I can forgive him. He said he will back off and give me space to think and that he will wait.
What do I do? Forgive him? He is still going to have to see that ex a lot. I love him, so I don't want to throw it all away, but he hurt me bad!
I am 25 and he is 24