Not sure how to handle this. - 05/01/12 10:54 AM
I'm new here and not entirely sure where this should go. I have been married to DH for the past 3 yrs and still currently married. He is AD Army and is Deployed but we are stationed in Germany. We were planning R&R and thought everything was good intil I get blindside by the fact that he keeps having this re-accruing personality that doesn't think he's good enough for me and that because he Hasn't figured out how to love me the way that I love him that it will never work and that it's not fair. We "tried marriage consoling" all of 3 sessions then he got Deployment orders and No longer had time. His grandfather has recently (past dec) and he couldn't get emergency leave to leave theater(down range) and say good bye to him. I told him to just take his R&R and be there for his family. I am now getting blamed for him not going and he resents choosing to spent R&R with me instead of going to his grandfather. He says he respects me, cares about me and even believes in me... He just doesn't love and and says that its been this way for a while that he just keeps the peace, because he hates to see anyone upset. He has gone on to say that " I've lost so much of me because of you, I don't even know who I am anymore."
He wants to call it quits but, I love him to much to just walk away. I know we are young (21 and 23) and that we could theoretically move on from this. I take the vows i made seriously to me divorce is not an option, if i thought it was i would have never gotten married in the first place. I want to know How i can reach out and help him threw this.
He wants to call it quits but, I love him to much to just walk away. I know we are young (21 and 23) and that we could theoretically move on from this. I take the vows i made seriously to me divorce is not an option, if i thought it was i would have never gotten married in the first place. I want to know How i can reach out and help him threw this.