Reading Erotic Romance - Good or bad? - 07/03/12 06:31 PM
My wife and I both agree that viewing porn is imoral and generally a bad idea. She however, has no moral problem with reading sexually explicit romance books. I'm not talking about 50 Shades of Grey either -- these are more explicit. I'm a recovering sex addict and used to look at porn secretly until my wife found out about it. She was very hurt by it and I understand why. I haven't looked at porn for several years now and have no desire to do something that is both bad for me and bad for our marriage. It does however bother me that she's reading these books even though she's perfectly honest and open about it. Are there any women that can help me understand how this is completely different than my looking at porn? Should I be bothered by this or am I just misunderstanding the whole issue. I really love my wife and want her be able to read whatever she wants but this particular genre makes me feel the same as if she were cheating on me. I don't want to bring it up to her until I have a better understanding of how women see this issue.