I'm back, just need input - 01/11/13 08:21 PM
[b][/b] I havent been on this site for awhile. Thought some things were getting better or I just stopped worrying about stuff.
I just need advise or some input now. Im seriously ready to pull my hair out, or maybe get a freakin back bone and leave for good, Some older posters may remember me but this is what I want advise on now.
We moved in june to another home, different town, hoping ok its going to make a new start. Home needed some repairs. So here we are 7 months later and we are still living like gypsies in the basement. Half of our stuff is still packed, took Hubby 5 months to install kitchen cabinets that were bought and delivered and sitting in the living room, he is still polishing the edging for the freakin counter top( he polishes, sands it, polishes again, sands it) this has been going on for 3 weeks!!!! Of course he only goes upstairs and works on it for a few minutes then comes back down here and plops in front of the TV to watch TV. The master bathroom upstairs just needed a new vanity installed, well he tore the whole bathroom up, cabinet is stacked up against wall and nothing has been done ( 1 month now) the spare room upstairs is loaded with boxes. 90% of the boxes are his crap! he has 4 boxes full of old bills that he has already paid ( some are 6 months old) and he refuses to let me throw them away, this one point caused an argument last night. I have family coming to stay for a visit the end of this month and the house is a mess. Boxes everywhere, tools and crap half down thrown all over the couch upstairs, spare room loaded with boxes, kitchen not done, bathroom not done.
I can make 2 pages full of stuff that he starts and never finishes. the more I push/ask/beg/ the more he does NOTHING. its like he like living like a pig, in the basement.
I bought a brand new big AC unit when we moved in July, cost me $600. well we spent the summer in the basement and the AC was not even taken out of the box!!!
A bit of history, we were the caregivers for his parents for over 3 yrs, until we had to put them in a memory care facility in April. We had to clean out their house ( MIL was a huge pack rat!!!!) that adventure took us almost a month, hubby had to go thru every single box, every single envelope..it was horrible. She has alzheimers and was a pack rat, had stuff stashed everywhere from 70 yrs ago! you can imagine, well Hubby refused to get rid of a bunch of their stuff, so now the new house's gargage is LOADED to the roof with crap he bought over from his parents house too!!!! I would think that after what we had to go thru cleaning his parents house, he would not want to be the same way!!
I CANT DEAL WITH THIS!!!!! i dont know how to tell him, ask him , beg him to pleaseeeee get up and finish something in the house , let me help him go thru boxes and sort thru stuff..Im sick of living in the basement out of boxes, i hate not being able to set up the living room as a normal home!
any ideas?? I wish I could post pics here of the condition of this house and it doesnt seem to bother him ..its never going to get finished if he only works at it 1 hr a day MAYBE
I just need advise or some input now. Im seriously ready to pull my hair out, or maybe get a freakin back bone and leave for good, Some older posters may remember me but this is what I want advise on now.
We moved in june to another home, different town, hoping ok its going to make a new start. Home needed some repairs. So here we are 7 months later and we are still living like gypsies in the basement. Half of our stuff is still packed, took Hubby 5 months to install kitchen cabinets that were bought and delivered and sitting in the living room, he is still polishing the edging for the freakin counter top( he polishes, sands it, polishes again, sands it) this has been going on for 3 weeks!!!! Of course he only goes upstairs and works on it for a few minutes then comes back down here and plops in front of the TV to watch TV. The master bathroom upstairs just needed a new vanity installed, well he tore the whole bathroom up, cabinet is stacked up against wall and nothing has been done ( 1 month now) the spare room upstairs is loaded with boxes. 90% of the boxes are his crap! he has 4 boxes full of old bills that he has already paid ( some are 6 months old) and he refuses to let me throw them away, this one point caused an argument last night. I have family coming to stay for a visit the end of this month and the house is a mess. Boxes everywhere, tools and crap half down thrown all over the couch upstairs, spare room loaded with boxes, kitchen not done, bathroom not done.
I can make 2 pages full of stuff that he starts and never finishes. the more I push/ask/beg/ the more he does NOTHING. its like he like living like a pig, in the basement.
I bought a brand new big AC unit when we moved in July, cost me $600. well we spent the summer in the basement and the AC was not even taken out of the box!!!
A bit of history, we were the caregivers for his parents for over 3 yrs, until we had to put them in a memory care facility in April. We had to clean out their house ( MIL was a huge pack rat!!!!) that adventure took us almost a month, hubby had to go thru every single box, every single envelope..it was horrible. She has alzheimers and was a pack rat, had stuff stashed everywhere from 70 yrs ago! you can imagine, well Hubby refused to get rid of a bunch of their stuff, so now the new house's gargage is LOADED to the roof with crap he bought over from his parents house too!!!! I would think that after what we had to go thru cleaning his parents house, he would not want to be the same way!!
I CANT DEAL WITH THIS!!!!! i dont know how to tell him, ask him , beg him to pleaseeeee get up and finish something in the house , let me help him go thru boxes and sort thru stuff..Im sick of living in the basement out of boxes, i hate not being able to set up the living room as a normal home!
any ideas?? I wish I could post pics here of the condition of this house and it doesnt seem to bother him ..its never going to get finished if he only works at it 1 hr a day MAYBE