I am married for 3 years we have 2 babies. I am not so confident person and now with the new life with the children and all, as well as the economic situation i lost my hope faith ..i have become so stressed that every morning i get sick and upset stomach..i am so afraid about the future. i dont know whats wrong with me..am i deprrssed? Very low self esteem..no energy..no hope..many more. My husband is more practical i quess and he doesnt seem to feel me understand me..he expects me to be always happy toto smile and help him with his part time job. But i am trying to find the strenth and motivation to do all for my children and him and i dont have at the moment anything more. Evrry time he talks to me i feel so worthless..and i am making small steps to feel better and be least a good other and housewife.. So tired..ful time jobb

Welcome to MB.

How old are you and your DH?

How old are your babies?

You are not worthless, my dear.

You are not alone. God loves you and He has given you everything you need, but you can only give what you have to give. If you are running on empty, then you're weakening more each day. You must take time to fill your tank, even if it means locking yourself in the bathroom and reading one chapter in Proverbs. Or listen to some uplifting preaching whenever you are in the car. Even a 5 minute ride can give you a little boost. It really can make a difference in your outlook. There is nothing wrong with you. You are more than enough. Those voices in your head that tell you can't do it, that say you don't have what it takes, that say you won't make it one more day, they are lies and they are not your friend. And your husband may never know what it is you do and the pressure of being in your shoes, but it matters most what God says about you. You are precious and worth more than rubies. When you aren't sure if you have any more to give, when you wonder how to make it through another day, you find out what God says about you and you believe that and only that.
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thehappywife,

Have you read Dr. Harley's Basic Concepts?

Brainhurts, yes I have.

We'd like to get to know you a little better. Would you mind starting your own thread and telling us your story?

Fantastic.

So you understand that we post Marriage Builders, Dr. Harley's Basic Concepts?

You've read this? TOS

Sure, I am new to forums in general. How do I start a thread and should it go under general, etc?

If you go to what forum you want MB101 is for general, then hit NEW TOPIC at the top of each forum.

I did read the TOS, but I may have misunderstood. Every post must fall under one of the Basic Concepts?

Did you see this?

We try not to post personal opinions. We post Dr. Harley's material and try and help guide posters with Dr. Harley's MB program.

Here's a thread for you, HappyWife:
TheHappyWife's Thread

Thank you Prisca. Was my reply too opinion filled? I didn't mean it to be, as much as I thought I could encourage the poster, and it seemed that she hadn't much response so far. I saw that her post had been viewed over a hundred times but didn't see much in the way of encouragement. I apologize if I jumped the gun.

The poster did receive a response from a board member but she has not replied yet. Once she answers Brainhurts questions and responds to the post, she will get some responses. But she has not responded to BH yet.

I wish you would change your display name... You are not worthless, you are VERY valuable... Maybe change it to Valuable77?

Hi! We are both 35..he is just 6 months older. Our babies are 3 and 1,5 years. He sometimes so much controlling that it causes more pressure and stress to me. Its not that i dont care about our babies and our future but the present it can be so overhelming..i get stuck. I want to break free from the bad mood low self esteem no motivation no energy and strength trap. I want to feel happy everyday to appreciate every day and our life to be strong to take care my family and me. Not to be tired and angry stressed and stomach sick all day.

Ok maybe cloudy77!!

Yes i need to change many things. First from inside. I started to read little, go for walk with the children, but with this depressed mood sometimes i cant do very much. . I feel lost stuck..

Have you been to your doctor for ADs?

What things do you need to change?

*Like* your new name!!

Do you know the number one cause for depression in women is their relationship with their husband? If you can fix that, the depression will go away.

Definitely get on ADs for now.

How is your husband controlling?

No i havent been to doctor but years ago i had the need to talk to someone and had asessions with psychologist/counselling. I dont believe in myself i am very cruel judge of myself, i feel that most people even my husband doesnt love me..many things..negative things. Lost contact with friends, always feel tired and then i hate myself for not have everythibg in the house under control. Lately i barely have the power to do some basic things..sure to take care of the children, cook, little cleaning. I i am actually a simple person..i just need few things or getaways to help me relax..gain power..get in touch with myself.. Maybe go out for a coffee or dinner..shopping..maybe a hobby..dance or exrrcise or anything interesting..maybe these things are very common..but for me that i dont have them, not even once a month is my dream. I just want to feel happy for my children and husband. I hope i am not sounded like a bad mother..

Hm..for doctor i dont have extra money at this moment.
My husband is like it doesnt matter to him how you feel but what have you done. Sometimes he tells me do this what you can and how you can and after he can say why you dont go to bed earlier and wake up easier in the morning and why you have so bad mood and are you unhappy with children and me...and so on..you should start believe in yourself and the next day says something to make me feel worse. He wants to help me and we have the same goals in life but its like he is too practical to feel me. I am notasking for feel sorry for me or an excusr for not doing some things or whatever..i just need more understanding and that i need my time to heal myself..whatever is i have..depression or i dont know. Its like he expecys me to always listen to him and to push a button and be fixed. Like computer format me. ...