Wife Wants Separation To Determine Type of Love - 02/09/14 10:47 PM
This is really hard to type but I think my marriage is over. We've been dating for over 6 years and married for two. I thought everything was going well but my wife and I have had a rough few months and my wife finally opened up to me the other day and has been ever since. She has essentially told me that she doesn't, and never did, love me the way your supposed to love a husband but loves me like a best friend. She said she always imagined growing up this romantic life and being intimate with her husband, but our bedroom is dead. She also said she loves to cook and clean and did growing up and thought she would love doing it for me, but she doesn't and she is just unhappy. She cannot stop crying and apologizing for ruining everything and for her feelings, but that is honestly how she feels. I think she may be suffering from some form of depression or anxiety, but I talked with her about it and she said she is super stressed now, but has been having these feelings deep down for a little white. We are going to go to counseling and she is even open to the idea of her going to her own individual counseling sessions. Maybe I am just overly hopeful that a fixable mental issue is the root cause, or maybe there really is one. Now obviously I am crushed but I have to respect her for her honesty. My only thought is to give counseling a shot, as a last ditch effort. Other than that, does anyone have advice or has anyone been through this before?
We just had another long talk, and we have our first counseling session set up tomorrow morning, and we think we are going to separate for a month or two, and allow her to decide how she needs me in her life. She and I both agree that its unfair for us to be married, if she isn't loving me how she's supposed to, but she is not yet ready to make the life-altering decision that we should get divorced.
We just had another long talk, and we have our first counseling session set up tomorrow morning, and we think we are going to separate for a month or two, and allow her to decide how she needs me in her life. She and I both agree that its unfair for us to be married, if she isn't loving me how she's supposed to, but she is not yet ready to make the life-altering decision that we should get divorced.