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Join Date 08/31/02 11:00 AM
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| Me: M/38/FBS
She: 43/FWS
Married 6/17/95 together since 6/2/94
4 children from her first marriage, only 2 with us now as the 2 oldest are now grown and on their own.
First marriage for me second marriage for her.
Numerous problems in the marriage, many related to children's behavioral issues that have placed quite a strain on us
The fateful moment in time happened on 8/8/02 while wife was visiting relatives back home
*D-Day came on 8/24/02 by way of an indirect email confession which led to a direct confession.
Immediately forgave the wife for that fateful moment in time. Yet having trouble dealing with all the anger and resentment associated with it.
Problem further compounded by wife having to spend 15 days in jail on another matter in September.
We were making GREAT PROGRESS before wife landed in jail, but there have been times I feel like we are back at square one. Recently had a discussion about some aspects relating to it along with some historical stuff that has been helpful even though it is a little uncomfortable for me to digest. There may be many more things I am afraid I might need to know as time goes along even though I don't want to know, but I guess that is a part of the healing process, I am truly amazed by my wife's willingness to share those things even when she knows it can cause me discomfort. I give her tremendous credit for that. I opened up about a few things regarding myself that I was very reluctant to because of my own embarrassment but I did so because I felt she had a right to know and I hate to keep secrets from her.
Wife states she has NO interest in OM and never wants this to happen again and has also stated that this is the only time that this has happened.
Recovery is showing good signs of progress even though we have our good days and bad days |
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