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| We celebrated our 10 year anniversary in the spring of this year. We have been together for 15 years. My H is 36 and I am 38. We have 2 great kids age 4.5 and 5.5. I found out on get this one...Friday the 13th, although I was suspicious for at least 2 months prior to that. We have done everything wrong. I thought that his needs were the same as mine. He has been looking for hi needs to be filled for the past 13 years. I love my husband dearly and I agree that I am partly responsible for the demise of our marriage. I have admittted that and understand. My self esteem has everything to do with my marriage and my happiness. He told me that on Firday the 13th that he was miserable in our relationship and said that I could not tell him that I wasn't...he was right I was not living life (a loving Life) to the the fullest. I asked him if there was OW, he said no. The next day I cought him e-mailing. I started plan A almost immeidately (I am not sure why...but was happy to read that I had done the right things.) He does and did not want to leave because of the kids. He has told me more tha tonce that if it wasn't for the kids he would have been gone long ago. He has been staying with us for the past 5 weeks in severe depression. He told me that he had broke off the relationship with other woman so he could figure out what he wants. He admitted tonight that he was with her two weeks ago and has another out of town trip planned in two weeks. He says that he has talked to her since he told me he wouldn't. He goes back and forth several times a day about moving out or staying. I want him to leave because all he has done is lie to me and he isn't even sure if he wants to work it out. I want him out...he will not allow me to fulfill his needs and he seems to want to blame the moving out on me somehow. We went to counseling 2x and each time the counselor has asked him if he really wants to work on the marriage...his answer is I don't know. I don't want my marriage to be over but I can't be my husband's cleaning and laundry lady any longer. He won't leave and he won't try!!!What do I do???
Help me!
Jeaner
PS. I don't trust him and it shows |
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