If it walks like a facade, looks like a facade, quacks like a facade.............. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

All I meant was that nobody--and that includes the people who inhabit your life with you every day, and love you up close and personal--would ever be able to tell from your calm exterior what was flowing in those "channels", or sloshing around behind your "levees". <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> I learn more about what's going on in your head, from your thread on MB than I could ever learn from watching you myself, not if I did it all day every day of my life. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" /> And if it's that way for me, I'll bet you anything it's double and TRIPLE for your husband--who, let's face it, is not the most nuanced guy on the face of the planet--unless you outright tell him, which you often don't. Your father isn't the only clam in the family!!

t&l