Meems, your secret is safe with me. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Truthfully, I see no problem with at least doing an online search (Zabasearch.com is really good), to check public records and see if they've moved.

If you find out the OW is gone, you will breathe easier. If you move away, and find out that she has moved closer to you, you will not breathe easier, and you shouldn't.

That said, I know exactly what you are talking about. The only advantage to all the spewing I had to put up with, over so long, was that it gave me a certain amount of confidence that NC was still in place.

Now she's been really quiet. I have to trust in NC on the merits of my H, not the lack of merits of the OW.

It's a scary transition.

IMO, the knowledge of our enemy is a separate issue. I think that, even for the people who feel no need, that it is still a good idea to check periodically. Knowledge is power. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />