I am reading the Undivided Attention and I have to say that we don't do that. Most of the year, we are in the house alone (with 2 dogs and a cat). Right now, my stepdaughters are here for 4 weeks (3 weeks of this are left, and I am counting it down).

We do go out together to dinner and an event once a week (movie, comedy club show, etc.) but we definately don't do 15 hours together. We will both be on laptops working in the same room, but that isn't UA. We do errands together, and sometimes that is fun.

We don't have SF enough to meet his needs. I just had some surgery and can't right now but even before it, we weren't. All the photos I saw from the A would pop in my head often. I felt like a second choice. I feel that he is only committed to the M now that he is jobless, and in a tight spot and worried about what will happen when he isn't and things settle down again.