I think it is excellent, but I did not do the exercises, and that is the true test. I learned very little from it that I did not already know from reading "His Needs, Her Needs". However, I thought going through the Emotional Needs Questionnaire with my wife was many times more valuable than reading HN/HN, hence my comment on the exercises.
As far as I know, HN/HN and "The 5 Love Languages" are the only two books on the market that really deal well with individual differences in how we receive love. Because of that, they are far superior to the books that say "men are like this and women are like that", at least for those of us that do not fit the typical male/female profiles - and most of us don't, at least not exactly.
However, I see by your other posts that you are trying to recover from an affair. My book recommendations would be (in order) "Surviving an Affair", by Harley, and "Torn Asunder" by Carder. Read them together with your husband. Discuss each chapter. DO THE EXERCISES!!! Survivng an Affair contains a highly condensed version of "His Needs, Her Needs" so it is not really necessary to buy both books, though I admit that the chapter on Sex in HN/HN is worth the price of the book all by itself, even after reading SAA. There are other good books as well, and the Love Languages one is a good one. There are a couple more books recommended in the link in my signature line, as well as a few on-line resources that you may find helpful.
<small>[ October 10, 2003, 11:41 PM: Message edited by: johnh39 ]</small>