As a woman, I can assure you that being on time was the right thing to do. I'm so sorry it was painful though.<P>I can sort of understand your pain. The first Valentine's Day after my x left was pretty miserable as it was also our anniversary.<P>Part of your pain probably comes from the uncertainty and lack of control you feel. I, too, have been there as have most of us here. Personally, I would have had a much harder time surviving it if it had not been for my faith in God.<P>Hang in there. It sounds like you're doing well.<P>While I didn't know about Harley's plan A at the time I went through my ordeal, it works for so many people that I hope you'll study up on it and try it. It may not save your marriage but it might save your self-esteem.