I was looking through this posting and thought I should thank you for the reply. I'm finding it to be helpful. Now 2 weeks into an apartment I am trying to keep my focus on fixing myself. I have my first counseling session alone tomorrow. W still does not want to try on our marriage. She does want to be friends and thinks I'm a wonderful man with great qualities. It's hard for me to think that way. If I am so wonderful, why won't she try?<P>------------------<BR>Working to Resolve and Rebuild.