pops I think that Tigger4jdt hit the nail on the head with where I was coming from.

You were married to mom of your oldest son and I can understand a soft spot.
Sort of like the one I get for an adult patient that lives near our office and drops in to say "hi" and ask for a few bucks until his SSI check gets there. He does it once a month and all the girls have chipped in every time he asks.
That's the soft spot I think you were refering to.

My H in no way carries a soft spot for oc's mom.
I just don't think FH does either.

But I may be wrong.
Nice to hear from you too.

All is well here.
Hope it's going much better for you too.