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I noticed on a lot of profiles that the A seems to begin around the 10 year mark. Is it possible the 7 year itch how now become the 10 year itch. Is society becoming more patient, so people wait for 10 years for their affair, not seven years?<p>I don't know what I'll accomplish by this post, but I had to post this. Maybe it can serve as a warning to those coming up to this mark! Watch out!!
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Seahorse, I think the reason mine happened at 9 years was because we only dated 2 months before marriage. If we had dated 2 years like folks used to, my H's A would have been at the 7 year mark. The other reason it may be waiting til 10 years is because we are so busy these days. So for 3 years we just fill our time with work, hobbies, family etc., and when people realize these don't fill their ENs (especially SF) then they turn to an OP. Just my 2 cents. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]
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I had to reply to this post, my W's A was at our 10 year mark. Coincidence? Maybe, but I do see a trend. <p>BTW, we ARE recovering, there is hope.
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We got married in 1982. Bimbo #1 made her first appearance in 1991. Go figure.<p>Psycho_B***h
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I'm another one whose now ExH decided to find another at the 9 year mark - our 10th year anniversary would have been on June 6th. Divorced on 4/30 - just shy.<p>I've heard that by the 10 year mark you are either truly in love with each other - or not.<p>Maybe the 7 year itch is when the WS starts to get the idea into their head and then it takes a few years to fall into and have the A. K
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Hm. My husband and I started living together in January, 1988, married in November 2000, and d-day was October 2000. I'm not sure when exactly the affair started, but I believe it was in the spring of 2000, a few months after our 9th anniversary. Hm.
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We'd been married for 8 yrs. when the A started...but we dated for 2 years before we married...hmmm
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D-Day was our 10th Anniversary.... Couldnt get much closer than that....
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I found out about 1 week before our 10th, i swear, I have had so many people on this site write what thier WS is saying, and it is al so similar, i wish i could send all this to my WH, maybe we wouldn't feel so alone.
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My WH wont even consider coming to this sight... I wonder why - is he afraid he might actually learn that his whole line of thinking is totally screwed up....
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Hey, think you might be right!! now my H & I were close friends etc for 5 years before we got married. We were each others FIRST everything. He started his EA/PA/Mid life crisis last yr (our 9th yr of marriage). Our 10th anniversary is coming up very shortly!! Still stuck in limbo, going nowhere, though D was dismissed & hes under our roof.
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