Hi Heenie,<p>We played a game about what to do in situations like this a few months ago. In this game, the participants were asked to come up with the word of what they should do. <p>Answer: Do Nothing.<p>Lupo is right. This is H babble. <p>RE: If he was 'falling out of love' with you for 2 years. Why did it take an A to do something about it? Why not just leave or get help? <p>Nope, too many other reasons and too many irrational behavior patterns. Some excuses are even stretched out farther. Mine told me, he never loved me (we have been married almost 12 years). News to me. I then asked when was that true, when we were dating, when he proposed, when we got married, which day after the honeymoon........ That line of questioning (to find the logic) brought out the truth that he was not speaking the truth but was confused. Ok, I can work with confused.....because I was not confused. Then I said, if you are confused and I am not which one of us would it be better to give the help vs need the help? Ws replied, you are better to give the help. <p>Ahhh....... out of the mouth of the Ws comes a bit of logic. With that in hand, I started to make progress. Remember I was not to control him but he now realized he was not in a good frame of mind to tell me what to do or babble about the not in love stuff as such. <p>In fact, I got angry at him and said, then why did you wait sooo long to tell me?!?!? He admitted that was not true. <p>See? You either talk to the babble and dismiss the babble but never ever believe the babble or the babbler's voice, until he can speak logically. <p>
JMHO,
L.