Hi,
I can't tell you just what to do here, ( to make things right again) but perhaps I can give you some ideas that will help a little bit.
I am tyring to determine what i should do, stay on top of him to get him to talk or give him a little space, then schedule some time.
He is probably going through withdrawl. That means that even though he should be sucking up to you and begging you to stay, he is still lost in the wilderness and doesn't know what he wants. You asked on LIR's thread " why do we alway shave to do all the work." It comes down to - do you want to leave or stay in the marriage. If stay, you have to do the work cause he is a wreck and can't.It's not fair, but that's the way it is.
If he really is doing no contact, he will probably come out and make signs to be with you again. I recommend you do a few things -
1. Try and spend time dating. Bring it up to him and see if he likes the idea. Go out as often as you can but stay away from R talks, just have fun. The only R talk you should have is about 30 seconds long. Something like this, " When you are ready, I want to talk about our future, but for now, lets just have fun and get to know each other all over again."
Be the kind of person that he wants to be with, and have fun with.
2. Try and meet his needs.
3. Don't LB.
Right now, you want really bad to know what the future will be, and that things will be OK. I don't think you can right now, but you can still be happy until you do know.
Really think about these things, there is more here than it seems. You should also be reading and improving yourself so that when he does want to have R talks, you will know how to best proceed.
All the best.
SS
<small>[ September 10, 2002, 04:00 PM: Message edited by: still seeking ]</small>