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Hear it goes,I don't know if u all reamber me or not i used to come in here all the time! My H and i were having terrible marrige problems, due to his lies all the TIME and never sharing anything that goes on in our marrige as far as far as keeping everthing to himself, bills wise buying things and not talking with me first about it and so on. anyways here lately i have noticed a big change in him, as far as wanting to make me happy. Its like he has went from 1 exstreem to the outher. from being a real big jerk to a prince chariming all in 2 weeks. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> Not sure what is happening, It just seems to good to be true. all of this majoir change at once. And see when we were having all these marrige problems, i noticed alot of things in the documents on my computer that said my lov kisses so on but when i tried to open it i coulden't just a blank screen. Plus he went to a gocart race about 2 hiurs away from where we live stayed over night, cause he said it was down toward where his mom lives and would just stay there. But.......... when he returned i noticed something a couple of weeks later. I have a snoop software in my computer and i saw a note that read did u have a wonderfull weekend! Now u tell me if a man goes to a gocart race which i a'm not saying he diden't but say's something like that , he sure would not ask that question to a nother man. I would think he would say how was the weekend or something like that. Please does anyone have any answers? thank u.

welllll, my personal suggestion is u know the road you have been down. Sudden changes are strange for sure. SO, what i suggest is.. KEEP UR EYES OPEN. a liar will be caught eventually.

mercy

I really don't know what to tell you but I read your plea on the first page so I came back to read it - Did you confront him??? Do you think he is having an affair??? Has he had an affair before??? You can only decide what you want to do ??? Do you love him??? I mean there are alot of unanswered questions here for people to be able to help you.... maybe if you gave some more details - someone would be able to offer some insight - more background info.... Good luck

I have been there and all that I can say is that what your thinking is most likely the truth. I have been with mine for 7 years married for 3 and nothing he has done has went undiscovered and every rotten feeling was always revealed we are now separated (hardest thing I ever had to do) but I had to do what was best for me and maybe that will make him realize things about himself. Not one to give advice but I send my prayers!

I have been there and all that I can say is that what your thinking is most likely the truth. I have been with mine for 7 years married for 3 and nothing he has done has went undiscovered and every rotten feeling was always revealed we are now separated (hardest thing I ever had to do) but I had to do what was best for me and maybe that will make him realize things about himself. Not one to give advice but I send my prayers!

To Maw64,
Hi just read your message. Ican't confront him, as he is a lier. All he says to me everytime i confront him is i don't know what u are talking about, or no that is not so. See we have been together now 11 yrs and he has been this way up to just about 2 weeks ago. the MAJOIR CHANGE.... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> to prince charming. I have never caught him with a women, but have deep feelings he either has been cheating on me outside the home, or online. The reason i say this is i have fount so many things in the documents that are very supious but i can't get them open. here is a few of them. my lov kisses hearts and then when i went into the files and folders i searched for pictures ogf women, and pulled 1 up that said girls mall it looked like a webcam picture sent to him. then i saw in the documents that said hi Mike but again can't open it. He has allways been a lier caught him in several but now that he knows i a'm supious he his really watching his peas and ques.

Itd45,

Is this the post you meant? It was on page 2.

I will post to bring it to the top. If I recall, you first came here not knowing much about computers and kinda self taught yourself how to snoop. What type of device did you install? A few MBers out there know which ones show pratically everything including the password.

Sounds like your instincts are correct. Now how can you be in recovery if he is still lying to you?

Have you defined your boundaries? If not, work on that first. Learn what is not acceptable and then learn how to remove them from your view.

I will also post this link to your other thread.

take care,
L.