2/4/2001 D-day several OM’s, WW was raped by Father from 0 - 13 years she is sexually promiscuous and an extreme over-spender
3/2001 enter counseling no response from WW due to spiritual problems
5/2001 Oldest Daughter returns home from Grandmas due to WW nagging and begging
5/2001 WW is caught calling OM’s
6/2001 WW leaves because she is confronted with her latest EA’s possibly PA’s Plan B 2 days
6/2001 WW comes back after finding God through me, but faith is weak and trust is weaker both ways
6/2001 new counselor specialist with victims of sexual abuse
7/2001 counselor calls for my forgiveness and trust of WW
7/2001 neighbors know our business and pry
8/2001 It’s all a good recovery
9/2001 Bankruptcy looms
11/2001 Oldest daughter is screwing up failing school and trying drugs
11/2001 Van is repo’ed
12/2001 poor Christmas, bankruptcy looms
1/2002 Bachelorette party goes bad with WW acting suspiciously while away but no obvious EA or PA
2/2002 I am fired and WW is diagnosed with spinal tumor
2/2002 no job prospects
3/2002 no job prospects
4/2002 tumor is removed and no cancer, no job prospects
5/2002 bankruptcy is final, no job prospects
5/2002 Oldest daughter is going very very bad and leaves house threatening family etc.
6/2002 Neighbors begin lot line crisis/fight, no job prospects
7/2002 WW is finally fully recovered from major surgery
7/2002 other neighbors practically start fistfight with me (I walk away)
7/2002 I decide to turn a new leaf and really try a lot harder
8/2002 bankruptcy is hurting job search
8/2002 WW decides she has no feelings for me and loves me still takes a week at her Mom’s. I ask for forgiveness for not trusting WW and punishing her for affair.
8/2002 gives mixed signals and stays out all night (first time) until 8:30 AM after returning home
8/2002 WW decides on Divorce
48 hours ago I learn of apparent 2 week EA by WW. I had to pull it out of her. Tears and negotiations for Divorce begin. This morning my Pastor and my Counselor convince me that divorce may be premature. I own ALL of my bad behavior of the last 1 ½ years. Job prospects are good. WW best friend is sick of lies and spills the beans about PA’s and EA’s in 8/2001 and 1/2002 with OM whom was supposed to be just a fling but is very important to her. WW had 17 year old niece lying for her and hiding numbers for her for years. All my suspicions have come true. Divorce is the final solution.

By the way all of her affairs have been old men (46) or young kids (18). All so she could control them. Her latest and apparently greatest is a Forty something geezer with a mid-life crisis "cool car" and a swank love shack apartment over-looking the best lake in the city. All big bucks, but she don't seem to have much money since this well went dry.

How do i file?
I think it will be amicable 50-50 split
How do I not get screwed by this Playa" again?

I am under the care of my very cool pastor who is a sex abuse survivor and a wise wise man.

WW will continue to seek counseling help etc.

Kids are being talked to as best we can. No counseling for them due to no money. We will see what the church can do.

By the way I grew up in one of those garbage houses with all the crap inside and the dumpster outside on the 6 O'clock news. The house is kinda like me, but I'm OK and cleaning up fast.

I really need legal advice so that i don't lose my kids.

I'm not so sure this will be amicable. Pastor and I confronted WW yesterday about her recent EA's. Counselor and Pastor and me and WW went to session and discussed recent EA's and everything. WW now realizes that her childhood abuse still affects her greatly but she won't change right away.

She has asked for a separation and custody of the kids. I won't agree to more than 50% custody and a 50% split of assets.