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I truly believe. I have NO doubts.
Why? He has started to answer my questions.
Me: Is it over?
DH: Yes. completely.
Me: Do you miss her? Are you in any anxiety over her?
DH: My only anxiety is that I FELL OFF AND HAD AN AFFAIR.
Me: What about Young'Un?
DH: I haven't talked to OW since Jan/Feb. I haven't talked to Young'Un since March/April.
Then today I am in such turmoil because we have to move and we are having trouble w/ financing a house (credit issues pre-A and during A). We have until Dec 1 as landlords are returning... anyway...
He has been more solicitous than I EVER remember... hugging... etc. My forehead wrinkles when I am thinking and/or worried... and he came over to smooth out the worry . Too sweet.
I know I haven't been around much... but I am still lurking for my "OLD" friends and newbies.
Hugs to all,
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Hi Cali, Congratulations!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> I wish you and your DH the best on your road to rebuilding your M!!! Semper Fi, RIF90
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I'm happy that you have reached this point. I hope everything is a smooth recovery from now on.
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great news! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
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I am nekkid and dancing! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />
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Awesome Cali, Our God is such an Awesome God to bring you and your husband together and on the road to full recovery, you are very blessed indeed!!! Give thanks and praise!!!! We all sing praises with you!!! Dawn <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
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Congratulations Cali! I am soooooo happy for you!
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Wonderful ..... a beautiful thing. Surrender to the joy .... trust YOURSELF .... let go of fear .... bathe in the glow of love. Pepper <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> (also dancin' nekkid) <small>[ September 01, 2002, 09:08 AM: Message edited by: Pepperband ]</small>
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Congrats!! Good news!! (dancing clothed,,don't wanna scare away the rest of your party friends!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> )
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Cali, Congratulations!! I have read your story, were you and your husband still living together the whole time or ever separated?? Please read my post http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic;f=37;t=019863I could sure use your advice, basically my WH moved in with OW (see timeline below) about 19 months ago. Last week was telling me he was coming home, now he wants a divorce. However, I won't be able to see him that much, no kids.
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Isn't it a great feeling?? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Congrats!
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Cali,
{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}
I'm tearing up over this. You've put in a good long fight and deserve it.
Love ya,
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Thank you all for your good wishes...
going_crazy, I will check out your link. H and I were separated for one month... basically he was home most of the day...then went to his rented 'room' to sleep...during the week... he slept at home on the weekends...
Hugs to all...
Cali
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Thanks for yet another good news update! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> I'm so happy for you Cali. Oh, and to your H.... "Hooray!!! You're an awesome H!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> ". Karen
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Cali - I rarely stray out of the recovery forum, but I did so today for some reason. I am thrilled to hear about answered prayer in your life!
I will continue to pray to you and your husband (and come on over to Recovery once in a while).
God bless and keep you both focused on Him as you rebuild a Christlike marriage that honors God.
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Good stuff Cali,
Reading stories such as yours gives me the energy not to stop trying, even if at some point the obstacle course seems so daunting.
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SO WONDERFUL TO HEAR!! I LOVE TO SEE THINGS LIKE THIS. GIVES ME HOPE. GOOD LUCK AND BEST WISHES!!
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God bless you and your husband. When I read the title of your thread (It's Over), my heart sank. I thought you were talking about your M!!!! So glad you were talking about H's infidelities, instead.
You have suffered, but persevered, and we know the
Word says:
"but we also rejoice in our sufferings,
because we know that suffering produces
perseverance; perseverance, character; and
character, hope." Ro 5:3-4
Your hope is in a renewed marraige, full of the promise of joy.
Good job, Cali. You are an inspiration.
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Cali, I was thinking the same thing as Boppo, but several people have tried tweekin' us lately, so I was looking forward to seeing what the post was really about. I'd noticed lately that your H had become a DH so this post had precursors. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Isn't it nice to have only "normal marital sadism" to deal with? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> -Jeffers
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Thank you again for all your good wishes...
yeah, jeffers, normal married sadism it is... and the really great news is that I no longer bite my tongue afraid that I'll LB... as the 'sadism' isn't about his A... but NORMAL stuff...
Boppo... good to hear from you was wondering how your recovery was doing...
ForeverHers... glad you wandered in...
Nick and Uteconf... I write these updates more for NEWBIES than myself or anyone else... I want you all to know that it's hard... it's tough... but recovery IS POSSIBLE...
Topie... always thinking about you having 3 boys under 4? Mine are 9, 6 & 3 and I can't imagine if they were any closer in age...
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