Hey everyone!! I have been trying to catch up on MB this evening, I see that Spacecase and Blondblossom were wondering where I was! I have been totally swamped at work with alot of long hours, haven't had time to do anything!

Well, nothing has really happened here. As far as I know, WH has not filed for divorce like he said he would. I have not seen him since that dreadful Wednesday night talk we had a little over 2 weeks ago. We have had a few email exchanges, very polite, non relationship talk, and very short.

I feel like he is Plan Bing me!! I don't know the details of where he is staying and I don't ask, I just know that everything is still here except a few clothes.

I did send him a quick email today, things at work are a little hectic, heard through the grapevine they are cutting our office by 20%, my previous manager had always protected me through the cuts and "created" a position for me, but unfortunately decisions are made at a corporate level where they don't even know who I am.

Anyway, in that email, I told him of that, and that I was a little worried, he responded back with some confidence boosters, telling me that I am too valuable, that I will be okay, etc.
He told me that it never hurts to get my resume ready anyway for whatever comes along.

I responded back and said something to the effect that I guess it didn't matter where I looked for a new job. (hidden meaning - since he said he wants a divorce, I could move anywhere).

His response was:
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Don't be so dramatic. I am still taking time for myself. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">He had sent that right before he left for work, no clue what he means by that since he definitely wanted a divorce 2 weeks ago.

anyway, thats my little update. I haven't done any pursuing, relationship talk, but don't have the opportunity to Plan A either, since I don't speak to him, but try to remain upbeat and friendly in my emails.

Almost forgot, I had sent him a quick email earlier this week asking if he could dispose of a light for me that contained mercury (he has direct access to a disposal facility).
He said OK and then asked me how I was doing.
I told him I was fine, asked him how he was.
He said he was fine.
I then responded with maybe a slight LB, "well, I'm glad you are happy"
His response was:
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I said I was fine, not necessarily happy </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">anyway, thats it, not much to say, just that I have decided to "Let go and Let GOD" take this situation.

Hey going crazy - I am glad that you are ok I was waiting to hear from you - I am glad things are somewhat quiet for you - quiet is much better than noisy - I hope you have a nice relaxing weekend - and I hope to talk to you later... Mimi

Hi there! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

hey, I was really worried about you. Isn't this strange?? I don't know you and yet I think alot about you. I really feel with you.
Going_Crazy, I think you are doing a great job!!!
Your H sounds very relaxed too. Don't forget to take the best care of yourself.

I haven't got much time right now, so I'm keeping it short. Just wanted to let you know that I'm really happy to hear from you. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

hugs
bb

Glad to hear you're doing OK...patience is what it'll take now.

[QUOTE]Originally posted by going_crazy:

anyway, thats my little update. I haven't done any pursuing, relationship talk, but don't have the opportunity to Plan A either, since I don't speak to him, but try to remain upbeat and friendly in my emails.

I love it GC- that you are doing no pursuing, relattionship talk ,e tc.

BUT you can PLAN A IN THOSE EMAILS ! Have you sent any ecards..? Not, not too many, but maybe one per week... or one sweet email a week... like that one with your letter. HE liked that!

I think my nice emails... the ones that are, my letters and my attitude when he sees me... all work together to get progress. I saw some this last 24 hours! yea!

Take care of you righ tnow.. but throw a little plan a out there...

isnt that what lotsva (sp?)did? But dont overdo it.

I know he loves you and want to come home.. it is hard to lose face ... i think that might be a big issue. Help him with that, dont make him feel less than or ho w awful he is for having the a... give it time, he is yours.

Honey <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Hi going crazy -- I've been away for a few days. I'm also way busy at work and many long hours the past few days. I think you are handling the situation well and you can plan A through emails, which I think you are doing. Keeping it short and light. I think WH's responses that you described indicate that he is indeed confused (I know that scenario well). Keep doing what you are doing.

I just got back from a conference and spent time with folks that also used to work in Africa and it really makes me think about what I might do there again if this all doesn't work out.

I'll be thinking of you.

I have no clue what is going on, I haven't "heard" from him since Friday via email.

I have a concern, he still has my SAA and His Needs, Her Needs and Dr. PHils RElationship Rescue (which BTW, he asked if he could borrow that one, I never mentioned him taking it).

I'm scared that he is now using His Needs, Her Needs and Relationship Rescue to better his relationship with OW!!

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by going_crazy:
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I'm scared that he is now using His Needs, Her Needs and Relationship Rescue to better his relationship with OW!!</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Hey GC,

Don't worry. The WS can try but it doesn't work when you put the batteries in backwards. That's how implementing the his needs/her needs techinque will work on the A relationship.

See the A is built on lies and deceit. Believe it or not that is fuel to their fire. If you learn how to control that fire, you might even be able to cause an LB from a distance.

Let the WS try whatever technique based on honest, truth and real love. The A doesn't stand a chance of survival because it is a facade.

L.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">See the A is built on lies and deceit. Believe it or not that is fuel to their fire. If you learn how to control that fire, you might even be able to cause an LB from a distance. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Orchid: Any ideas on how I can control the fire and cause an LB in their territory. I hardly have any contact with WH, even though I am supposed to be in Plan A, but definitely don't want to come across as weak, pleading, and begging.

I know you have mentioned it before about causing LBing between them two, but how??

I'm not for sure what the circumstances are, it would not be feasible for him stay there during the week because of a 2hour commute to work, so now I'm worried that the affair will grow since they may only be seeing each other on weekends, with their "stolen moments" instead of living together all the time.

What can I do to make that love nest fall out of the tree, I haven't been doing anything at all and that seems to not be working!!