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I'm struggling with trust at certain levels. I trust WW with our children, and everyday living. It's only been three weeks since D-Day. At this point all I am looking for is to trust her with telling me should she make contact and/or if one of the OM's contact her.
She has shared phone records with me (not at my insistance as I refuse to spy) and they are clean. I also know that there are plenty of ways around the cell phone. I believe it when she says there has been no contact thus far. I'm not convinced she will inform me of any future contact. Why am I so paranoid about something I can't control?
Anyone have a word of encouragement?
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Well, you shouldn't trust someone who is untrustworthy. That is insane. It will take a LONG time for her to build trust again. And until she reproves herself, you need to take steps to protect yourself and verify everything she says. You should exercise great caution over the next year or two until she demonstrates that she is trustworthy.
Unfortunately, this is what you sign up for when you agree to stay in these relationships. It's not easy, but it can be done if the WS takes the steps to redevelop trust.
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