Any other FWSs out there waiting for the BS to take you back? (I also posted this originally under "recovery" - but realized that if you are waiting, you are not exactly in recovery!)

Have you ended your A, expressed remorse, asked for forgiveness, perhaps even examined why your A happened, made it clear you want to save your marriage and will do whatever it takes to do so, and now you are now waiting for your BS to take you back?

I'm not sure that I've found any other than myself here at MB. Please correct me if I am wrong.

It seems that the vast majority of BSs on MB are waiting for a WS to come out of the fog and finally come back to them, or to end their affair and finally come back to them.

It also seems that any of the WSs or FWSs that are regular MB posters are actively in recovery, living back together with their spouse amd working on the marriage.

Am I really the only FWS that is waiting and praying for my BS to take me back?

Just curious,

Jen Brown <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

Hi Jen,

How have you communicated your intentions toward your husband about reuniting? Will he let you close enough to him to talk to him?

I was the WS in my first marriage, 10 years ago. I asked for a divorce to be with OM, husband granted it, before the divorce was started, I changed my mind. Husband continued with the divorce anyway--he was really hurt. Or he just wanted to show me how hurt he was.

I assumed he didn't want me and started a rebound relationship with my current husband--THEN my ex showed interest in reconciling. By then, husband and I were well on our way to being engaged. It was the most hurtful period of my life.

It was all head games--but to a really foggy WS, it just adds to the confusion.

You should write a letter to your husband and express all the things that you have been expressing to us here. I know that you are sincere. Sometimes it is so difficult to communicate verbally--almost impossible. A letter may help.

Continue Plan A. Reach out to him.

You should wait and be patient. Give it a few months.

Don't do anything crazy like threaten for a divorce or anything like that!

Don't give up.

There are a few WSs out there in a stand-still--actually most of them have not told of the infidelity and it is still unknown to the BS. You really have a unique situation, though. But your honesty and fortitude will serve you will, you can bet that. Good luck.