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How many hours of work each day before one is considered a workaholic? Shall we include the commute time? How much paperwork at home each night? How many nights of paperwork? What about the scheduled routine, so many days of paperwork, a date night, a nite with the kids, etc? What happens when even sex is scheduled? Does it get boring and the spouse lose interest? Does the workaholic hide behind paperwork to avoid sex? Any comments? [posted under emotional needs; perhaps better posted here] <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />
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My H said he was a workaholic. I asked not what makes you a workaholic but WHY are you a workaholic. Our issue came down to avoidance but each situation is different. Although his enthusiam for work began innocently it grew into much more until one day his work was not what he did but who he was. We are still working on this but very slowly...it is just one more layer of our onion.
I hope this helps somehow. Food for thought maybe?
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Glad I found this...I asked my H many of these ?'s. It was eye opening for him.
How Do I Know If I'm a Workaholic?
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Do you get more excited about your work than about family or anything else?
Are there times when you can charge through your work and other times when you can't?
Do you take work with you to bed? on weekends? on vacation?
Is work the activity you like to do best and talk about most?
Do you work more than 40 hours a week?
Do you turn your hobbies into money-making ventures?
Do you take complete responsibility for the outcome of your work efforts?
Have your family or friends given up expecting you on time?
Do you take on extra work because you are concerned that it won't otherwise get done?
Do you underestimate how long a project will take and then rush to complete it?
Do you believe that it is okay to work long hours if you love what you are doing?
Do you get impatient with people who have other priorities besides work?
Are you afraid that if you don't work hard you will lose your job or be a failure?
Is the future a constant worry for you even when things are going very well?
Do you do things energetically and competitively including play?
Do you get irritated when people ask you to stop doing your work in order to do something else?
Have your long hours hurt your family or other relationships?
Do you think about your work while driving, falling asleep or when others are talking?
Do you work or read during meals?
Do you believe that more money will solve the other problems in your life?
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