Thanks All!
Doing o.k just busy.

Very few things have happened lately......

Well last time I talked to my wife we discussed me selling my baby....mot my daughter (she's worth more <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> ) but my 69 Firebird Convertible. First thing W and I bought together. I wanted to make sure IF I sold it would she sign the title. I didn't want any surprises. She said she would. She was aware I had a $500 shop bill to get it ready for sale. That had to be paid first then we would split it. Now that it is sold....and in another state....she is wavering. Saying that we split the amount and THEN I pay the $500 shop bill. What a crock and she knows car is gone so she's blackmailing me.

The only other thing is my visitation. My w, me, and parents all live in seperate towns. All divided by about 20 minutes. Well, my wife volunteered my parents as the go-betweens in RO, they would be the ones to bring my daughter to me. None of her friends, but my parents. Well, my parents love their granddaughter, but they aren't young anymore. My wife made this arrangement, but doesn't feel she has to be the one "inconvienenced" to bring our daughter to them. She said if they don't come and get her then I will have to wait 2 more weeks to next visitation......after Xmas and her birthday <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> She told me she would never use my daughter against me. She needs her dad. Do all upset STBX's do this? I know it is her only way to get back at me and have any control, but it is bull. She sure has turned into an evil person. I can't believe I still have feelings for her after all of this.

Anyway went shopping for D's last night. Easy to shop for 3 year old.........she likes anything....especially E.T. She has seen movie 7x now! It is my 9 year old I am having problems. I do not know what she likes or what is "cool" right now, since it changes daily. I don't want to look like a "out of tune dad". God I feel old when times change so much. It was fun shopping for them and taking my mind off of things. Oh yea, I did buy a small gift for W. I don't know why now though, but I got her the new Fleetwood Mac Greatest Hits Collector CD's with DVD. This is her favorite group and the first concert we went to as a couple. I surprised her on her birthday and flew her to St. Louis for their Reunion Tour. That was a great time. So she will like it.....maybe not since it is from me. I thought I'd have daughter this weekend and was going to wrap them and put in D's bag with a nice Xmas card. How can W still hate me when I do nice things and she treats me like dirt? HHHMMM I'll never know probably.

Oh, remember she did get rid of fresh Xmas tree I gave her for her house..........BUT SURPRISE..
she is using it in the front window of her photography studio on main street...all decorated and beautiful <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

So, I just hopefully make it through Xmas season and then we get down to the home stretch. I still get knots in my stomache thinking about her and us. Try to spend more time going out. I am going to take 2 more college courses and I added more items to my menu at restaurant and am going to dedicate more time to business as I have been letting things kinda slide due to my concentration.

So that's my story and I'm sticking to it.

I hope you all have a Blessed Merry Christmas and A Happy New Year. May God shine down on each and every one of you during your time of need and bring peace to your hearts and minds.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by AlanArthur:
<strong>Thanks All!
Doing o.k just busy.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Yeah ... busy thingking for her ... look at your post ...

... What a crock and she knows car is gone so she's blackmailing me. ...
She might just get very desparate w/ money ... just write it down this incedent and ask her when she is out of the fog and ready to work on M.

... I know it is her only way to get back at me and have any control, but it is bull. She sure has turned into an evil person.
Again, most WS don't get at BS, they just don't even think or plan. They just say or do thing at their convinient.

...How can W still hate me when I do nice things and she treats me like dirt? HHHMMM I'll never know probably.
Again W don't hate you she just aren't convinced yet that you are a change man ... specially after what happened. I thought you will drop your complaint w/o any demand <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> . Here again your action don't match your word.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><strong>Oh, remember she did get rid of fresh Xmas tree I gave her for her house..........BUT SURPRISE..
she is using it in the front window of her photography studio on main street...all decorated and beautiful <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><======== <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> ============> She has to look at them everyday when she is working. Her word doesn't match her action either, still confused, be patient and consistant and presistant on your plan A. Give time, your Dv is still a long way and you still have time.

It is good that you are getting busy w/ other activity. Stop driving to her town and stop snooping, let it go ... .

-rh-

Hey Alan, good to hear you are still at large and doing fairly well. I think Ba109 was starting to fret about your long absence! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

You own a restaurant? Are you experiencing this wave of low carb dieters?

Hi AA,

If you are still looking for ideas for a 9 year old, I dont' know boy or girl. I have a 9 year old boy - He really wanted Yu-gi-oh (not sure about spelling) trading cards. In my area they were hard to find. Wal-mart was keeping them behind the counter (high theft item). Otherwise, I found some booster packs at my local Shinders.
We also got him Jr. Golf clubs (he wants to learn to play golf and golf with dad). Other stuff he asked for was fishing pole, board games.

8 year old asked for bike, (which we bought, since he needs a new one, his last one is too little) buy it now for chistmas or in the spring, either way we spend the money.

If it is a girl, I got two of my neices, those beaded jewelry kits.

Ideas for 9 yr old... Does she have a game boy advance? or a personal cd player or radio/ clock radio with cd for room? Girls love jewelrey imho, and bath gels and stuff like that.. body shop, etc. My son is 10 and like nsync, backstreet boys, and maybe another band or two. My son is 5th grade and 10.... what else does he want? Spiderman movie and other popular movies.. go to best buy, lots of neat gifts for kids of all ages.. or local computer store...

good luck, I kn ow I have been at a loss, but am getting it taken care of here at the last minute.

Hugs, H

Hey, Alan. Glad to know you are OK--and I even found your post without too much difficulty..lol.

Where are you going to spend Christmas Day?

I sure hope the New Year holds better days in store for you.

Hang in there, my friend.

Redhat,
I told lawyer to tell CA that my request is to drop complaint if W will drop hers so we can get on with our lives. Not good for us or D. I still haven't heard anything from anyone yet. I instructed my lawyer to tell her lawyer this also.

Thanks Everyone