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<small>[ March 25, 2003, 07:40 PM: Message edited by: Qfwfq ]</small>

SS:

The orchid thing is significant to me for the following reason.

When we were dating, I used to buy her those cute little 1" cactus plants when I went to see her. She thought it was funny, plus we both liked cacti, and they were pretty (and a couple of them are still alive, in the garden now, after more than 27 years).

When she and I had a huge blowup argument about the Gulf War in 1991, I went out and bought her a Begonia plant that afternoon. I couldn't understand, though. She didn't say a word, and ignored the plant. It wound up in the garden at our old house, and died a year or so later. Her first A started around that time.

So, now is way different. She's gone out of her way to show her appreciation for little things like that that I LOVE to do for her (but I'll probably always be a klutz when it comes to "true" serious romance). Even the stuff we need to do - like this past weekend I was patching holes in the siding on the house where vent pipes had been removed. When they're painted, you'll never know there was a hole! She remarked a number of times that I do good work, better than the contractors. She even made some suggestions as to how I could improve something, and I followed those and they worked. The feedback was very cool. I was able to show her that I DO value her opinion on things. I think she thought I was too much of a perfectionist when it came to home improvement projects. Truth is, we both are! And it's fun to compare ideas and try things out.

See, you've all steered me back around to the "inevitable" conclusion that: "Actions speak louder than words." How'd you do that?

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♥Qfwfq

Naw,
It's communication.
Sometimes words do communicate, but sometimes they don't.

Actions also can communicate things. Often do. Communications can be felt, not heard. Both of you feel some good things from the other.

Not good at romance???
So you ARE like me, or like I was. Now when I walk into a room of my W's friends, they start to point and talk about me behind my W's back. She tells stories on me ( perhaps to bragg, but I wouldn't know for sure.)

I am beginning to think in terms of her happiness and things are starting to click. Today she had a follow up doctors visit. I hand wrote a note and put it in her car at the parking lot with a peice of her favorite sugarless gum on the note. Small thing, small deposit, big smile on her face when she saw me next. See, I had to remember lots of stuff like taking her car keys so I could put it there in the first place. When the appointment was, and so on. It is the effort some times more than the thing itself. She knows I care about her, she responds.

Like I said, you get it. I think she is getting it too. Sounds like it.

Communication is good when both care. In your case, it looks good.

SS

SS:

Yeah, like when I got home from work one day last week, I did the dishes BEFORE I told her I was home. She was in the shower. When she came out, I was relaxing in front of the Lobotomy Box. She had dinner in the oven, and when she went to check on it, she was surprised to find the dishwasher running.

Little stuff, but big stuff.
-Qfwfq