</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by WTF is dean790:
<strong>dear husband2you,
if i'm reading your post correctly and if i'm reading you correctly, i think your natural instinct to find a mate is working overtime. have you ever tried some of the larger city personal ads. i have met some
darling ladies by replying to a few of them. are you interested in meeting a man or are you look for something to do with you free time?</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">WTF was that? Meet a man? You have got to be F'in joking me right? Meet a mate? Dean I have a mate. I'm married, sic, that's why I'm here at MB. And meeting a woman right now is the LAST thing that I need, darling or not, until I'm either reconciled or divorced.
But for you to even suggest that I might even be interested in meeting a man, that's just sick! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />
Rational thinking MBer's,
Thanks for taking your time to post to me:
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by jdmac1:
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Not much I can say really. Just try to occupy your time with whatever calms you.
I find that online gaming helps during my down days. Course this won't work for everyone. But it helps me.
Didn't you use to be a gamer?</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">So JD, what game forum can I find you in. I use to play Tanny.. Tanarus at
www.tanarus.com to help calm me. I would love to get in a tank and chase you around an areana, poppin caps in your backside.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by terrified:
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Good thread because, despite being busy with my friends and D, it still feels very lonely. Your post hits home.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Terrified,
Well I didn't intend for it to be a good thread, just speaking out of turn once again. I am finally able to sleep in my bed since about Christmas. Before, I would just fall asleep in my computer chair.. whether online or not. That is where I felt at home. Of course, my neck wasn't very happy with me. I've fixed my house/masterbedroom up the way that I like it and it is more inviting for me to actually get up and go to bed at night now. I still have an occasional bad OM dream from time to time, but I normally just wake up and fall back to sleep. Things are getting much easier for me, thank God. I do have my moments though, where the loneliness gets me. I have filled my life with many people who nearly meet all my needs. I guess the sleeping alone at night is the hardest for me.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by learnin:
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Yeah, lonely is the pits. ...
No one to care how your day went, to care about your health, your future, to laugh with, to make coffee for, to watch with pride your S's ballgames...everything...
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to make coffee for...My WW, never drank coffee before the affair, now that she does, I love it and I hate it. A trigger perhaps, but a learned reality when she and I did sit down mornings during the A, and had a cup of coffee. SO at the same time I love coffee and always have.. I love having a cup of it with her, but hate the habit she acquired through the OM.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Honey:
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Hugs and HOpe. I have to stop my anger at what I can't control and focus on what I can.
Let's all stick together, we can make it through this together.
Thanks for the thoughts h2u, I know how lonely it is- and it is way worse for me on the weekends, the times i enjoyed so with wh
</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Honey,
I filled my weekends with work.. working 6 days a week at the resturant, and that helps out alot. I get home and I'm so tired, the only things I truly miss when I get home is the fact that she's not here. I normally walk in the door alone now and greet myself with a 'Honey, I'm home.' (with no intentions of refering to you, haha) and responding 'How was your day.' So yes, now I talk to myself.
Thank you for the paper assignment, we will get through this with each others support.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Lisa in London:
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... Why the change? Well, I think it's been about coming to terms with my lot. I didn't expect to be getting divorced or be alone. But I am, for now.
... One day, maybe I will meet someone else. But for now, I accept the cards I have been dealt and intend to enjoy it for what it is. When (and if) the time is right, there will be someone to share with - but for now I don't intend to be sad and single, but young, free and single (well, OK, nearly single, and not quite as young a I was, but you know what I mean )
Sorry, probably not much help, but I do understand what you are saying.
</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Lisa, Yes I intend to be young, free and nearly single, while I have been dealt these cards, and I know what you mean. Of course your a great help... if not here in all the other posts that I read of yours. You have an amazing strength about you. Respect.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Spacecase:
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Meditate, meditate, meditate...
</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Oh Gawd, Space.. really, I thought I was doing that by the hot tub each night, with a corona, gazing at the stars, smog, low flying aircraft and the HPD helicopters flying over.. what am I doing wrong?
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by matilde:
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Same here
And although I try to spend time with family and friends feels really empty
Take care and if u find the answer let me know...
</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Matilde,
I don't have the answer, but as soon as Spacecase tells me how to meditate properly, I'll fill ya in... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
...
Dean790,
.. Oh nevermind, I'll be nice.