it's not like I asked her to Save Silverman and invite Neil to my 3rd wedding!!

I asked xw via VM to cellphone and email to search for a Neil Diamond CD of mine. I actually ran into x at a local convenience store before work the other day and asked if she found it and her answer was "I started looking" and shook her head, as if to say no...without saying it. Haven't heard anything from her...I know I hurt her but WE BOTH have new relationships and I assume she's as happy with life as I am so why not just tell me NO it's not at the house or when she finds it just give it to a guy she takes evening classes and whom I work with and that will be that.

This may sound trite but do xbs' hold onto the bitterness and hurt FOREVER, to the point of not finding Neil!? Hmmm...if so, I'll go and buy him again!

I wouldn't hold my breath for Neil.

I would suggest letting the old Neil go and finding him again at your local music store he he.

Neil may have meant something very special to her (and what she had with you) ... and it may just be a trigger.

There are things even 11 years after Myad's A#1 that I can't do ... like go see "Man of La Manche" which he saw with her.

You never know ... just go get a new CD.

On an btw THANKS <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> I now have the earworm going on "I am I said" ... playing over and over and over in my head! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

way2

I'mn going to buy Neil, then...End of Story. Thanks for the input #5!

All kidding aside, I have a few triggers of my own (more than I care to say) that recall tender moments with my x! I accept that response way2, thank you.

Sorry 'bout the earworm...ergo..."Hello Again" <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

deleting my post out of respect to Catch

let me just leave you with the lyrics...

pack up the babies and grab the old ladies cause everyone knows...everyone goes...
Brother Loves show...
ark

<small>[ November 02, 2003, 06:30 AM: Message edited by: ark^^ ]</small>

Hi, catch,

Do you think that her response of "I started looking" and shaking her head as if to say no meant "I started looking, but no, didn't come across it yet?"

It seems as though you are putting too much thought into a simple response to a simple question.

I'm wondering, since I don't think Neil Diamond CDs are really that expensive, are YOU using this as a means to contact her and are upset at her lack of interest?

Good luck with your search for Neil! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I don't want to sound mean or that I'm on the other side here, but why does her not finding your cd have anything to do with bitterness?

Honestly, if it were me, I wouldn't bother wasting my time either on someone who is already in another relationship.

I don't understand why a cd that is probably on sale for $12.99 would be grounds to say someone is holding onto it for dear life to remind her of you.

Perhaps it's you using it trying to keep a hold on her. Otherwise, you wouldn't bother someone about a cd.

JMHO, I'm not flaming, just giving you something to think about from another perspective.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by catch22222:
<strong> ...End of Story. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Alone and thoughts-

Thanks for your responses but you may have missed several things here...1) There is not an austere tone to my original post (please re-read)...in fact, the thread has taken on a joviality (see Eduard and way2 posts) that doesn't warrant such negativity from either of YOU. I do not and have gone out of my way to be in contact with my x other than to retrieve personal items of mine 2) the correlation between Neil and bitterness is neither all inclusive nor exclusive. 3) Please see the part where I said "End of Story"...So,


END of STORY!

<small>[ November 01, 2003, 08:05 PM: Message edited by: HelenWheels ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Alone and thoughts-</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I said "End of Story"...So,


END of STORY!</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

You forgot to mention Ark as well! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

<small>[ November 02, 2003, 11:11 AM: Message edited by: ISleepAlone ]</small>

I have been a lurker for months but I had to respond to this. Your ex-wife is discussing this topic on the gloryb.com board and is laughing at you. You might want to take a look - the thread is titled LMAO! my exwh is an idiot! Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but I thought I would want to know if this was happening to me.

ARK-

...ALLELUIA! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

Ginger86-
Thanks for your concern but that's her prerogative.

Catch --

Well I was curious. Since I can't find it on the forums that are open to everyone it must be on OW/OM Only ... was she or is she currently an OW/OM?

If she is making fun of you, I'm sorry I tried to stick up for her -- but as they say no good deed goes unpunished.

Seems to me if she is making fun of you she is still very bitter. Just NC her and get on with your life.

Funny how there are so many posts on TOW during the weekend while MB is so quiet .. guess we are busy spending time with our families and spouses and working on our marriage -- while they . . . .'enough said. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

If you didn't get all your stuff back during the divorce write it up as a loss and leave her alone.

way2

<small>[ November 02, 2003, 09:00 AM: Message edited by: way2 ]</small>

way2

I'm not certain of x's relationship dynamics....I commented on her being in a happy relationship because she pointed it out on an MB thread a few weeks back. So, I don't know if she is OW!!?? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

Other than contacting her for leaf blower, chain saw (which she returned) and Neil, I have had NC with her for several months! I WILL LEAVE HER BE! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

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<small>[ November 02, 2003, 10:00 PM: Message edited by: Free2BMe ]</small>

Free2BMe --
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I will always carry bitterness with me </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">That is your choice.
You choose to be imprisoned by bitterness or you choose to be free. Only you hold the key.

What he did as a WH is now past, you've divorced him and you can put your life together again.

It seems you've also made a mistake and become and OP (yes some nice person sent me what you wrote on the TOW board) ... so are you holding Catch up to a different standard or blaming him for your current life and choices?

For a year or so after d-day bitterness is understood ... but after awhile it becomes a choice that you are consciously making, to make yourself miserable and to punish .. not him but yourself.

It's your choice Free2BMe ... it's your choice.

way2