Well,
It's over. I found out this weekend that my BS is having an A. Apparently it started sometime after or shortly before my A. I had been trying to work the MB programbut alas it was to late.

I found out from my son in an offhand comment he made to me. I confronted my FIL and god bless him, he told the truth to me. So this friday I am going to testify for my BS to help get her daughter back. 13 days after that and I will lie in court again for her to keep her from being convicted of domestic violence.

I'm in Ohio so our state allows for a no-fault divorce/dissolution which is the route I plan on taking. I plan on agreeing wih everything she asks for as far as our joint marital prperty is concerned.

The reason I'm quiiting on the M is not because of the A she is engaged in currently, but because she brought it home with her and shared it with our children. The comment my son made that triggered my suspicions was that he like playing "daddy-monster" with mommies friend. "Daddy-Monster" is a game I played with my kids where I chased them around the house growling and snarling like a monster. When I'd catch one of em I'd tickle them and wait till the others cam to rescue the one I caught. Then I'd chase the others when they showed up.
To my knowledge, I was the only person ever to play that game with my kids and now someone else will be.

Good luck all.

-2soon

Wise2..

I am sorry for the state that both of you let your marriage get to.

Up untill this knowledge your posts were full of love and concern for your wife...
what of that?...

Do you know if the OM..is/was already a "friend" of the families...

does you wife know you that know...

ARK... <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

2soon,

I am so sorry to hear of your recent discovery. The fact that you were the WS doesn't make this hurt any less or IMO any more deserved, although I have heard of many cases where the BS does go on to have a "revenge" A.

What I am questioning, however, is your thought process here. So because she brought the children in contact with OM you draw the line? True this was a horrible decision on her part and potentially damaging to the children, but is she not in the A fog now herself? Did you not hope for forgiveness for your A, and less then desirable actions?

I know you are hurting but it is too soon to make a firm decision about the M, and think it would be a mistake to just simply move out and file divorce. Have you confronted her? Is OM married? Have you exposed the A?

Please give this some thought, I think you may be moving to quickly here.

Wife knows I know.
OM is not a friend of the family, she met him in ht ebar she works at.
Yes, she knows I know.
She says she can't do it anymore.

Yes I love her and I care for her. The hole I have through me is unbearable. When my thoughts turn to her all I can think of is the OM with her and my kids.
Ark, This friday is the next hearing for my DSD as far as the temporary custody order is concerned. This hearing will be to determine if the temporary order is extended until a hearing on the final order for custody. I will still be going to testify for my BS this friday. Even though I don't think I could stand to see my BS right now, I will not continue the hurt.

more to follow... will keep everyone updated. am continuing to seek help for myself and am better for it.

-2soon