May husband said he will be back to me by Mar. 2. He is making sure he has the O/W out of his system so he says. Like when you get yourself off of something that is bad for you, like cigarettes or fattening chocolate ice cream. A little at a time. Thats how he explained it to me.So rather than say now or never, I will give him the three more weeks. Saturday is Valentines Day and we haven't gone out for our Saturday night Dinners since he has been with the O/W. He took me for breakfast this Saturday but I would like to go out to the Saturday night dinners until he comes home. The counselor said I could see him once a week until then, no more because I would have a tendency to pressure him and say hurtful things to him if I see him too often. I want to hear some opinions asking for the Sat. night dinners until then. And yet I'm fearful of what he will say for THIS Saturday night......Then I really would be angry if he says he can't this Saturday.......Am I asking for trouble?????? Would this be out of line?????????? What should I do?????????

I say, you should certainly go out for dinner on the next few Saturday nights... but don't bother inviting your H. I say, you should call up some girlfriends, and go out and have fun! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Create your OWN special Valentine's Day this year. Again... maybe with some close girlfriends? And who needs to be around someone else? Hmmm... just do something special for YOU. Bubble baths with champagne and soft music are, IMO, better on your own than with someone else. Treat yourself. Relax.

Valentine's Day is just one day of the year. What really matters are all of the OTHER days of the year, and what is said and done THEN. Besides, isn't Valentine's Day just a marketing scheme to make certain professions and businesses wealthy? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Karen

p.s. Don't put yourself through the torture of asking your H what his plans are for Feb. 14th. If you want to talk about it, come here and vent it out. Should your H ask you out, and you already have plans made, then you can always reschedule YOUR H for another time. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Lefty:

Your H is not with you right now, he is with the OW. Why on earth would you *want* to invite him to dinner on Valentine's Day? And why would you assume he'll be available to *you* on that day?

I've read several of your posts and am certainly sympathetic to your situation, but your H is still CLEARLY in the fog and, as such, should not be counted on to romance you on this holiday. Don't subject yourself to rejection (and potential LB remarks to WH) by asking him for a date on what is considered a holiday for lovers. If HE asks YOU, great. If not, make plans with some single girlfriends.

My feeling is that if he can't commit to you until the arbitrarily-set date of March 2nd, then there is no need for YOU to commit YOUR time and energy until that same date. Do your own thing 'til then; take care of YOURSELF and try to have a little fun.

Please try to be strong and independent during this difficult time!

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